dreading xmas

[nobodyshome]

Ds, who is 7 and has aspergers and hates change. With 2 days to go he is already in a real panic about xmas. After a discussion about lying, we told him the truth about santa. He completely flipped and said he will never trust us again because we lied to him. He is now eating nothing but brussel sprouts (my house doesn't smell to good)and does not want anything for xmas. Have a dd too and would so like a normal xmas. Any hints on how to gain his trust back?

A story, along the lines of a social story, but with the other intention iykwim - explaining the reason for 'lying' with reference to your dd if she is younger...

He doesn't have to join in the normal Christmas but may want to eventually. Or not - but your dd can still have normal Christmas with you.

Good luck - I was actually thinking just the same about my son (6, ASD) as he's been lying a lot recently and we've had the discussion about how bad lying is. He too will flip when he finds out the truth...but that's for another year's trauma! Oh the joys.

we're dreading it too. No respite care for 3 bloody days. So no sleep and no rest and no 'enjoying' it with the other kids.
ds1 didn't cope with Xmas when was younger but we didn't tell him about Santa. Just said we bought the presents. He's too literal for scary fat men coming down the chimney.
Course, he then went about telling other kids santa was made up. Sigh. This was after telling them about crocodiles in the sewers that he'd read about.
Don't know what to suggest nobody. Maybe explain that its a bit of made up fun like films/cartoons are and very different from actual lying.

could you try telling him that it's a story for little kids, but now he is a big boy he can know the truth and help keep the story alive for the little ones? ie make him feel a big boy?? I feel for you nobodyshome! I hope things improve today.

How did your Christmas go nobodyshome?