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emsiewill · 16/11/2004 18:16

I've never posted in the SN area before, but often read threads with interest, and have learnt so much from you all. I just wanted to share with you something that my dh has done (yes, dh, and no he doesn't have any special needs), for which I am very proud of him.

Dh is a cinema manager, and a while ago they received a letter from a mother of an autistic child. She wasn't compaining, but just drawing the company's attention to the difficulties she had had when taking her son to the cinema. She explained that his behaviour was sometimes a little "odd" (her words). During the film he started making a lot of noise, and some people complained to a member of staff about them and asked for them to be thrown out. She said that although the staff tried to be helpful, she felt they were very unsure how to deal with them. She wondered if the cinema could perhaps raise awareness among the staff of the types of issues that might be raised when dealing with children with SN.

Dh was very concerned about this, so contacted a local support group (I presume through the lady - not sure) for parents with autistic children. He organised a private screening (not sure what film) for them one Sunday morning a little while ago. He realised that maybe there were a lot of people who would like to take their children to the cinema, but felt that it would be too difficult, too many "tuts" and "looks".

He's just had a thank you letter from the group, which was really touching to read. Most of them said it was so nice to not have to worry about what other people were thinking, and to know they could leave at any point, and return without causing problems. Many of them also said that it was the first time their children had sat through a whole film.

He's had a request to do this again, and I hope that it becomes a regular thing. Unfortunately, he isn't able to do it free for them, but I don't think that's actually the issue, anyway.

Sorry to ramble on, I was really moved when dh told me all this - I knew he'd had the letter, but I didn't realise that he'd taken it further than writing back to the lady. He's not the most well-informed person when it comes to things like this, I was just amazed that he showed such empathy. (after 10 years of marriage he can still surprise me! )

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ScummyMummy · 16/11/2004 18:20

That's great emsiewill. I'd be extremely proud too.

Thomcat · 16/11/2004 18:22

Bless him, and how lovely to hear how proud you are of him, you both sound lovely.

Tickle · 16/11/2004 18:23

well done emsiewill's dh

coppertop · 16/11/2004 18:28

He sounds fantastic! I'd love it if there was a similar scheme around here. I've never dared to venture into a cinema with ds1.

No wonder you're so proud of him. Well done to your dh.

lou33 · 16/11/2004 18:28

How wonderful. We could certainly do with a few more people like him in life.

blossomhill · 16/11/2004 18:59

We would welcome something like that in my area with open arms.

Your dh sounds very thoughtful and kind

NomDePlume · 16/11/2004 19:09

Awwwwwwww, WELL DONE TO YOUR DH

edam · 16/11/2004 19:43

That's brilliant emsiewill. Your dh is clearly a very thoughtful man.
Does he work for a chain or cinemas, or is it an independent? Just wondering if it was something he could encourage other cinemas to imitate.

Davros · 16/11/2004 21:03

Do you know what? I'm going to write to our local communiy cinema from the support group I run to ask if they would be interested in doing something like this, say Sunday mornings. They do Baby Scream so a Special Needs session would be the next step on for stressed parents! Well done to your DH, I'll let you know how I get on.

emsiewill · 16/11/2004 22:25

Thanks for all your kind remarks. I was a bit nervous of posting this, actually. I was worried people would think he (or I) was somehow being patronising. Just my insecurities, I guess.

Anyway, he works for the UGC chain of cinemas (in Cardiff if any of you are near and want to know about the next screening).

Sadly, I don't think any cinema would do this without at least being sure they would break even. Dh said that there were about 80 people there, which is good for his cinema on a Sunday morning. Still, I will ask him if he can pass the idea on to the PR department (again, sadly, I think they would be much keener to do it if it gives them good PR - rather than because it's a good thing to do).

If you all contact your local cinemas as well, who knows what might happen.

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blossomhill · 16/11/2004 22:26

Davros - let me know how you get on as I would be v. interested in pursuing it with my local uci!

Hulababy · 16/11/2004 22:27

Well done to your DH

codswallop · 16/11/2004 22:29

really fab
how modest of im too

libb · 16/11/2004 22:31

80 people on a Sunday morning is great surely?! He sounds like a gem - I would be proud if he were mine too. xxx

emsiewill · 16/11/2004 22:31

Are you being sarky, coddy? - he certainly isn't one to blow his own trumpet (which I find exasperating at times).

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pixiefish · 16/11/2004 22:34

What a lovely dh you have

edam · 16/11/2004 23:01

Emsiewill, I was going to mention his modesty too but took it out of my post because I thought it might not come across well! It is modest not to mention such a brilliant idea and not to let you know how well it went, until something else brings it to light.

dottee · 16/11/2004 23:54

Emsiewill - thank you very much for sharing this with us. Your dh has shown great innovation and thoughtfulness. Like Davros's support group, I am going to put to ours that we contact UGC in Sheffield with the idea. They can always turn us down.

A colleague and I approached First Leisure about putting on a disco for people with SNs a few years ago and they agreed. The company was very enthusiastic about it and helped with their PR at the time. Sadly FL has now been liquidated.

But well done dh! I'm sure no-one minds paying for services like this - they are just grateful someone has been considerate.

codswallop · 17/11/2004 21:10

I wa being honest!

beccaboo · 17/11/2004 23:47

emsiewill, I think that's fantastic, and not a bit patronising, just thoughtful. I used to be a PR person - hopefully they'll take it up because they think it's a good community relations idea, rather than because it'll get them column inches. Word of mouth is very powerful. But they should do it anyway, not just because there's something in it for them!

emsiewill · 18/11/2004 19:36

Sorry coddy, just feeling insecure, don't be .

Haven't had a chance to tell dh about this yet, but I'm sure he'll be pleased at the positive reaction. Although I'm sure he'll also be bemused that I even thought to post it here

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