DD2 has recently been diagnosed with ADHD & ASD. Over the last year or so she has had difficulty involving a number of friendship fall outs in school. Some of which were reported by school to us as they involved DD persistently texting/calling & overly seeking attention as well as easily getting argumentative. Because of this she has moved form more than once & is often making new friends but making the same mistakes even though we have tried to guide her in this & she seems to realise this is the problem, she just cant help her self.
DD has also been in trouble with the school for being inappropriate on social media messaging, e.g asking people she barely knows if they think she’s hot, sending photos. As a consequence she now only has whatsapp & texting, & again tried to show her correct phone etiquette
She had a GF for a few months, however it came to light that she also sent an inappropriate photo to her & after speaking to the mum about the issue she also said that her daughter was quite passive but wasn’t constantly getting texts and calls from our DD, sometimes aggressive. We asked them to end the relationship & we took the phone away for a time period, again reiterating phone guidelines, social stories.
The day she got the phone back we discovered that she’s been texting a 23 year old she barely knows, we’re now wondering how to handle that – should we remove her phone completely until she’s more mature, she’s just turned 16 but does act younger.
It’s a minefield and a struggle each day at the moment, we never had need for restrictions with our eldest. We’re reading as much as we can looking for guidance, so if anyone has any positive stories or suggestions please?