Cannot believe this insensitve MNetter posted this!

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Just been scanning through threads and came across this thread. The post by Belladonna79 at Tue 18-Dec-07 19:21:16 left me speechless.

"Haven't read all the posts but the reason I have chosen a competitive some might say elitist prep (not Habs or NLCS - we live too far away) is because I don't want MY child's education disrupppted by 'adhd' or 'dyslexic' children. I know its awful to say this but I want my children in a classroom where I know the teacher(s) won't be spending 90% off the time asking other kids to sit still. Its wrong that any children have to deal with this but if I don't look out for my children who will?"

1. I have an autistic brother and an autistic nephew who is a mainstream primary school with an excellent SN unit and I am so thankful that he will never have to contend with abhorrent, misguided people like this at his school.

1. I have been looking at schools (state) recently for my DTS and all of the ones I have visited (4 in total) have special units to cater for children with SN. During my visit to the school that I placed as my number one choice, a boy with SN was in the reception class with the other children and the whole class was working diligently in their groups. There was the main reception teacher, the TA and the SN teacher who sat next to the little boy whilst he worked in his group. That type of inclusiveness is one of the reasons why this school is my first choice.

1. Anybody who thinks that it is only children with SN that are disruptive in class are seriously deluded and will be in for a nasty shock because 9 times out of 10, it is the off-spring of these insenstive, unempthatic, smug idiots who are usually the trouble makers since they can do no wrong!

Hi there, I've been a long time reader but never posted anything before!
I THINK I actually know BellaDonna79 in person (she mentioned a few things about her nickname origins and her children's names were at one point posted on her profile page, they are somewhat unusual)
If I'm right then I think I need to stick up for her. I agree her posts sound awful but there is history there that you don't know. It's not my place to divulge but she has very clear reasons for feeling as she does and I think if any of you were in her shoes you wouldn't be able to help feeling similarly.
She is a warm and lovely person who would do anything for her friends, she volunteers with her 5 kids in an old people's home because the 'old folks' love seeing the little children so much, she sponsers children in africa and she is a fantastic mother and friend.
She has been somewhat misunderstood in her posts as is the danger in a forum instead of speaking face to face.
Then again it could be someone else who is a total cow with no reasons to feel how she does who we should all despise...

sorry but i don't think helping old folk and such like gives someone the right to spout poisonous views.

What 2 shoes said. I don't give a damn what she does in her spare time, she has horrible and ignorant views about special needs children.

Oldfolks I'm glad if she is a goos person in RL, but we can only judge on what she says and does here and on here, she's fairly clear in her opinions. i fyou want stuff taken into account, you must divulge it.

sorry but doing 'good' deeds does not translate to being accepting and inclusive. What she has written is incredibly ignorant and prejudiced.

She defends herself by mentioning relatives with SN as if that made her comments acceptable!

Call me suspicious but do you think peapod and bella may be the same. I find it a bit suss that she has felt the need to post for 1st time to defend who may or may not be someone she knows in real life.

Aah, good point!