Can’t cope

[TurnUpTurnip]

What do you do if you can’t cope with your child’s behaviour anymore? She’s autistic and it’s too much, I can’t cope with it anymore I am on my own with her so no help or support (I also have other children) after after another morning of hell I don’t know how to do it anymore, she’s 10 and the older she gets the harder it is becoming

Hi, OP, I think this would be better placed in the SEN section, so more people with experience can offer advice.

Hello @TurnUpTurnip. We're just moving your thread over to SEN. As @NowEvenBetter says, there are lots of posters there who will understand. Best wishes from MNHQ.

I’m am sorry you are feeling like this.

Have you had social care assessments? A carer’s assessment for you and an assessment via the disabled children’s team for DD?

Does DD have an EHCP?

How old are your other DC?

Thank you I wasn’t sure where to post,

No no social care assessment no outside help at all, her behaviour is just too much, no danger awareness, no social awareness, I can’t take her out on my own anymore as I can’t cope, she runs off, runs in the road, she’s aggressive to people, she knocks on doors, tries to go off with other people, she doesn’t want to go to school anymore and refuses to go every morning, I have to physically dress her but she will still refuse, by the time I get her out the house is 10am as she’s spent that time refusing and screaming and I have to get my other children dressed when I go back in her room she’s undressed again saying she’s not going, we got to the school today but she refused to go, she ran off down the road leaving me and my other 3 children to chase but she disappeared, when we got to where she was she was running out of the shop with a cake she had stolen, which I had to go in and pay for, I just can’t manage this anymore, she does have a EHCP and my other children are 9, 7 and 4

You can request social care assessments yourself.

It sounds like school isn’t meeting DD’s needs. Request an early review or reassessment of needs from the LA. Personally, I would request the latter as it doesn’t sound like DD’s needs have been properly assessed - that way you can access SALT, OT, CAMHS assessments as well as the usual EP. Does the EHCP contain OT, SALT, MH therapies? Do you think the current school is the right setting?

What are school doing to help? How is DD’s behaviour there? If school was easier for DD her behaviour at home is likely to improve.

If DD cannot attend school the LA have a duty to provide an alternative education and any other provision specified and quantified in section F of the EHCP.

As you have a child under 5 contact Home-Start too.