do you have freinds who help you with child care ?

[jinglebells2shoessmells]

another thread made me wonder if people with children with sn have freinds who help them.
I haven't as most of the people I know live miles away or have a sn child themselves.

macwoozy, are you anywhere in Surrey as I could babysit or I have tutors who do it for £7 an hour and know all about autism

That's kind of you aquariusmum but we don't actually live in Surrey, anyway what would I talk about with dp if we did go out without ds, that's a scary thought It's not so bad, I go out with my mates once a month and certainly make up for it on that one night.
£7 sounds good, I haven't looked into it but I thought I read on here once that the going rate was anything up to £20 for an SN child

I know what you mean Macwoozy - people are always telling me I must make room for "quality time" with my DH, which fills me with horror! Does that mean we have to sit round having meaningful chats and re-bonding with each other over a candelit table. I would rather watch telly and have a takeaway with him any day!

NO, certainly no friends to babysit.
My mum will occasionally but only if DS2 is asleep as she & ds2 can't cope with his bedtime otherwise. She will help out for an hour or 2 during the day though, but she's 70 & finding it increasingly difficult.
My sister will but she is the other side of the country.

Onlyjoking -why can't mil babysit the weekend? Is there anyone else?

No. Used to occasionally leave DS2 with best friends (not generally for pleasure-related reasons.. usually practical) but since he smeared poo all round a public place and traumatised her and her DH half to death with the experience, and the treatment they received from other adults present, I wouldn't dare ask again.

ive got mum and dad but they are getting on now and not in good health.Im afraid i dont have any contact with old friends now since dd was born 14 years ago and having 4 other kids too means dh and i never go out without them.