Please help im so worried about my ds who is 3 think there might be something wrong

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I have a ds who was 3 in july he started nursery in september. My ds has always been a little livewire I once left a party because he was running riot, he always seems so over excited about things for example childrens parties he just goes a bit wild and runs around crazily. Recently we had his parents evening and the teacher said that work wise he is very clever loves jigsaws, painting, loves songtime ect however he struggles socially at the moment. I have noticed recently that he has started finger twisting but not doing it to himself but to others mainly his younger sister. The teacher said he is very lively and tends to push other children and finds it very difficult to share and he tends to be in other childrens faces alot. She also said that if he is for example doing a painting and they tell him to tidy away he wont do it untill has has completed what he is doing. He crawled/walked very early he is very very independant ie when he has his breakfast he has to put his bowl in the sink , he likes to wash himslef in the bath, he dresses himself ect. The teacher said they are monitoring him but I am so worried its causing me pain to think there might be something wrong and he isnt getting the support he needs. Lately he has started shouting at the top of his voice for no reason and the finger twisting is getting worse. Am I dealing with a typical 3 year old boy ? Any advice would be appreciated.

I would definitely either call your hv or gp. Maybe make your hv your first port of call, that's who I went to first.

Personally, he sounds just very lifely...my ms is rather lifely, but has calmed down a bit now (he is 5 now)...but that is not much help to you, I know!
You might want to post this in the Behaviourial section of the forum as well, as it might widens your "audience" a bit!

I do think he sounds just very lively and from what you say he is academically and language-wise completely normal. There are other mums on here who might know more, but he does not sound ASD to me, and I think you would be having more problems if he were ADHD, but I am no expert on that one and someone like Dustystar could tell you more. My only thought is that you should penalise him for the finger twisting, start now and be very consistent as he has to learn that aggressive behaviour is a no-no. I think if you can target this kind of behaviour at 3, it is a lot easier than when they are older and patterns have been set. Is there something he would really dislike you could do when he does that (I would never hit a child, but I did wash my son's hair - which he hates - if he ever showed aggression and he is no almost 5 and that behaviour is pretty much non-existent. I also know that some of the 3 year old boys in my ASD son's mainstream class sound pretty much like your boy and there is nothing wrong with them. Some people think we have "feminised" the school classroom too much, and in fact 3 year old boys need to run and jump and climb, not sit and draw and paint!

If the teacher is concerned then it's worth speaking to your HV or GP as Blossomhill suggests.

It's really hard to tell on here whether there might be a problem or not. Does your ds sleep well at night?

With the finger-twisting I would try getting one of those little squeezy stress toy things. When your ds moves in to twist fingers you or the teacher hand him the toy to squeeze and twist instead.

(Sorry this post is a bit disjointed and short. Dd is climbing on me.)

Nothing in your description rings alarm bells, but if the teacher is concerned then best to follow it up. Speak to whichever of GP/HV you have most confidence in.