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27/09/2021 07:13
Hi all,
I am going to post here as I can’t take the advice for a NT 4 yo - DS (partially due to bilingualism) has an important delay in his language, both receptive and expressive. Also, he is referred for ASD and ADHD assessment, expected waiting times 2/3 years 
so we managed to get a private one in the meantime. Outcome was that DS shows ASD traits but they don’t meet the threshold for a diagnosis (which could be done at his age). He shows instead several ADHD traits but this diagnosis can’t be made official before the age of 6.
He has no concept of time behind what comes after in routines (for example he knows that, as his speech therapist comes on Thursday, the day after is the last one before the weekend. Or a certain book, always the same, means sleeping afterwards).
Now, DH works 90 miles away and has always stayed there for the whole week before COVID, coming back home Thursday night and WFH Fridays, but DS was too young to understand. Since COVID started DH has WFH full time so DS has been used to have both of us at home and now he is extremely attached to us both, we need to be always all together, take him to nursery together otherwise…tantrums and screaming for the missing parent. It has happened a few times that DH or I have been alone with him or taking him / picking him up alone due to clashing work calls or whatever, and it has been a disaster.
Now starting from Wednesday DH needs to be back in person again and I’m panicking! DS doesn’t understand today or tomorrow or later, but on Weds evening he’ll immediately realise Daddy is not there.
FaceTiming daddy might work and DS sometimes interacts appropriately on the phone but then he’ll want the phone itself which I’m trying to limit so that would result in another tantrum 
any ideason how to make him accept the new routine?