Attatchment/greed

[MumOfFour84]

Hi people in my phone

I’m just after some advice

I have a child that’s recently been diagnosed with autism and AD, I’ve reached out to several people and they just can’t help so they say (I have 2 children with an asd diagnosis but they are worlds apart and it’s the first time dealing with this)

My child is very spiteful and selfish he won’t share the tv, he won’t let anyone near our pets if there’s certain foods/sweets/crisps in the house he eats them all

If you tell him no he gets aggressive
If I lock the stuff away he finds a way to get it even resorts to secret eating and stealing

We are still under CYPS for attachment issues which so far I find is a pile of rubbish as there has been no work around this so far

My son is also under impact but that ends soon as he’s joining secondary school

I have very little support with family so don’t get restbite as such

Just wondering if any of you could spin ideas my way

Hi there, I don't know much about attachment disorder, but for autism, I would suggest writing down some rules together about how you will share the TV. If it's really difficult for your son to share could you let him watch his own thing on a tablet, perhaps with built in time limits?

With food, I have a son who acts a bit like this but I don't think of it as stealing really. You could stop having easy snack food in the house if he is over eating, and encourage him to make a sandwich instead if he's hungry?

Generally I'd suggest you try and see his difficult behaviour as being caused by a need for control, rather than him being greedy or spiteful. If you can help him feel more in control and make his life predictable and less challenging he might not need to show so much of this behaviour.

I have add a bit like this.I've had to change my mindset and see the behaviour as anxiety driven. Have you heard of therapeutic parenting ? I've found it a great help. The a-z book is great.
Have a snack box for each child could help.

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting: Strategies and Solutions (Therapeutic Parenting Books) https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785923765/ref=cmswwrcppapiglttfabcFZYDSHX8X0AGDCYTBYVY

www.facebook.com/Naotp.worldwide/