How To Handle This Situation

[WestCountryLass]

As a 'non-SN parent' I would like your advice on how you would have liked this situation to have been handled.

Taking my DS to school, one little boy comes out of the classroom and says to another little boy "Look XXX, there's that girl we laugh at in the playground" (pointing to a girl in one of the other classes who has DS).

What should an adult over hearing that do?

I would tell the teacher that you believe there is some bullying going on, and tell her what you heard. I would also ask to be informed of what follow-up will be taking place so they don't just leave it and do nothing. Every school must have an anti-bullying policy, and as mum to an ASD boy, this is my absolute nightmare as he would never be able to express it to me if he were being bullied at breaktime These boys will grow up to think it is ok to taunt people who are different, as long as there's no adult there to stop them. I am SO pleased you came onto this thread as maybe you can stop something absolutely horrible happening. This is the textbook definition of bullying: picking on someone who cannot fight back on equal terms!

I would also tell the mum involved - she can then follow up also. I think we as mums have to get involved, even if it's other people's kids doing the bullying. It could be ours next. Big thanks to you Westcountrylass

I'd find this child's class teacher and have a word with this person.

tell the teacher (I wouldn't tell the mum, she might be disablist herself. Her kid obviously got it from somewhere). Its bullying and its a disablist hate crime.
Good for you WCL

I think you've had the advice from pps, but just wanted to say it is heartening to see you ask, all parents must surely worry about bullying, but when you know a child might not be able to say what these boys are doing is so wrong, it is good to know others are really looking out for them, especially those chance situations like this one...

sorry that was a bit rambling, I hope you let the teacher know westcountrylass.

I did tell the teacher.