Its so easy to say the wrong thing.

[totaleclipse]

DS (6.9) has ASD, yesterday I had to pick him up from school at lunchtime as he was being sick, he continued to be sick all afternoon and early evening. He kept saying to me, I hate being sick, and I would say something like, I know, so do I. I noticed he kept saying it but thought nothing of it as its not unusual for him to repeat himself, but just before he went to bed I was shocked and sad when I realised how he had been misinterpated(sp) what I had been saying, this is how the conversation went.................

DS - I hate being sick
ME - I know honey so do I, its not nice is it?
DS - So, you hate me when I am sick?

at this point I waffled on in horror while trying to explain I did'nt mean that, and reassuring him I did'nt hate him etc etc etc, I thought he had understood but then asked if it was naughty to be poorly It took me bout 20 minutes to settle him, but am still not sure he understands.

Its such hard work having to think about everything you say, I am just glad he was finally able to express what he thought I meant, but I wonder how many times in the past something similair has happened, and I 'v been completely unaware of how he has misunderstood things

goh eclipse, that does sound really tough, for you and him poor little chap.

hope he feels better today.

Well he has not woken through the night at all, and is still asleep, so fingers crossed

How sad that he could have gone to sleep with that thought in his mind Hope he's feeling better today.

My ds gets easily confused as well. Yesterday he hit me because I said 'keep your hair on' when he was getting all worked up. He finds it really annoying when I come out with such expressions (idioms???)You'd think I'd have learnt by now not to say them but they still slip out.

DS1 hates the sarcastic streak that everyone in our family has , it can be ahrd.

TE don't worry too much, if he'd misunderstood things before and thought you didn't love him, he wouldn't have been so surprised.

Thanks, I dont think he was especialy surprised, he had just figured out a way to clarify what I was aaying, ds has a severe language delay as well as ASD so its extra difficult for him to explain himself.

Surprised is the worng word- just if that you had left him thinking that inadvertently regualrly, it wouldn't have occurred to him to question it- it would have been accepted, iyswim? The fact that he thought to query it at all is reassuring.

Oh I see the lazy bones is still in bed ata the moment

Oh...what a little sweethaert, though.

He is awke now, and still poorly

Hoe he feels better soon, poor mite- Ihate it when ds3 is ill, he finds it that much ahrder to explain andits very

hugs to him