I met with the head and ed pstch today.........

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they were asking questions etc about ds - ie what he likes to do, what he is like with dd etc etc. They think he has some ' quirks'. I mentioned aspergers and sudden;y they said well we've been skirting around that, if itis decided he does it will be very mild but we #will do everything we can to help him

i'm not sure how i feel about this.....for a long time i'vve believe he was 'different' to the other kids in his class. his fine motor skills aren't all that great, he growls at other kids right in their face face if they do something to annoy them, he has a fascination with clock
(he's been able to tell the time since he was 3 including 10 to 5 pasts etc, he nearl 6 now). I've just been told I have OCD - s is this something i've passed on to him.. I feel guilty about it but also like he's just not perfect and will never be normal.

Sorry for ranting i don't really know what i want to say/ask

Feeling guilty is a common side affect of being told a diagnosis along with feeling like your world has just fallen in so just remember that he is still your lovely little boy and you are still his fabbity fab mum.

Mine was fascinated by clocks as well and could tell the time before he went to school.

As for growling. I taught a chap, who in year 8 used to bark at people! He's 6ft 4 of lovely year 10 boy now. No barking at all and all politness. I told him the other day he used to bark in class and he couldn't remember doing it but thought it very funny!

The school sound on the ball which is really good and there are loads of people on here who have really good suggestions and give tons of support.

Best wishes

I hope you are getting treatment for your OCD. Hard as it is to do please do not blame yourself for your son's difficulties. Nature loves diversity, humans hate it.

Neither the Head or Ed Pysch can diagnose AS and I personally think that what they have said to you is a load of old tripe (Aspergers is not regarded as mild and the school won't necessarily do much to help him).

Is your son under the care of a developmental paediatrician?. This person can help with regards to making a diagnosis. Your Gp can refer you to a dev. paed.

Have you contacted the National Autistic Society?.

I haven't contacted anyone i didn't know what to do i don't have a clue. He hasn't seen the gp - should i have taken him ages ago?
They mentioned seeing the school doctor (i didn't know there was one!) and occupational therapy - they say the just want to know how to deal with his 'oddties'

I've been looking at possible symptons - he loves clocks and maps, he reads fact books rather fiction, he likes knowing th rules, he talks constantly, he relates to adults really well and speaks very maturely fr his age, he dosn't always realise the impact his actions can have on other people, he's cumsy, his fine motor kills are poor ie handwriting and he can't do buttons, he often appears not to be listening, if he's not interested in something he easily lose concentration/focus and appears to forget what he should be doing, sometimes you've said something to him and it's like he's completelly forgotten it straight away - or i could just be looking for a diagnosis of something that's not there - i really don't know who to ask for advise or anything

sorry waffling again

You are not waffling - you are worried about your son and are seeking help. Not your fault in any way so do not blame yourself.

Would suggest you take your son to see his own GP as soon as possible (not the school doctor) and ask for a referral to a developmental paediatrician. Such a person can make a diagnosis. Tell the paed everything with regards all his difficulties that you have written here. Show him some of his handwriting. All that you have written will cause him problems at school.

OT (occupational therapy) can take an age to arrange (some waiting lists are months long) and this is best done through a developmental paed.

HTH.

thats great attila - s0 do i just make an appointment and just speak to the gp?? the hv just leaves you at 5 and you haveno one - i know they aren't always the best but at least there''s someone