Advice for a friend who's child make a lot of noise in the doctors!

[lottiejenkins]

Can anyone help please, i have a friend with a child(still awaiting a diagnosis) and she worries when she takes him in the doctors because he wont sit still and be quiet(he's 3) he doesnt feel comfortable in the surgery. He runs around a lot and screams. She feels people are staring at her and doesnt feel up to answering them when they stare. I have suggested speaking to the practise manager at the surgery(she says the staff are really good) Any other suggestions gratefully received!

she should have a word and get the child fast tracked. dd used to be terrified of doctors and the wait just made it worst.

sorry by fast tracked i meant seen straight away. i am sure other poorly people would prefer her to jump the que.

DS1 jumps the queue in A&E - for some reason he doesn't at the GP's but he's a bloody nightmare. (Perhaps easier now he's 8 and obviously something's up). Only advice is to grow rhino hide. Or perhaps ask the receptionist if she can wait in a more suitable place and be called.

dd always yells when her wheelchair stops moving. It does mean that sometimes we get seen quicker I think the other pateints are glad to be rid of her. She sounds like a siren when she gets going.

I find people "tutting" one of the worst things about having an ASD child. You can just see what's going through their boring suburban minds - "oh look, there's a mother who can't control her child, just what I read in the Daily Mail today, no discipline anymore, no wonder things aren't what they used to be". I would tell your friend to ignore them completely, or she could try one of my two new tactics (actually they are probably both a very bad idea, but boy do they make me feel better!)

1. Tell the person who tuts in your most aggressive voice possible to Fxxx off and that you don't need it today, whether she likes it or not, kids cry and make noise so she should just fxxxxx lump it or wait outside!(nb, make sure the person concerned is not big or tough before using tactic 1)

1. Shout at your child "don't you dare have a tantrum, I will not tolerate it, sit down at once " - also in a very loud , very fierce voice (think, Penelope Keith as Margo). This means no tutter can tut, as they could not possibly ask for more action on your behalf.

Or, as my DH would say, best to just ignore the FXXXXXers!

Tell her I know how she feels. Sorry to rant, it's one of my biggest bugbears with my ASD DS in town or at shops etc!

Is he suspected ASD? if so, suggest she bites bullet and buys some of those cards from the NAS that say 'this child has ASD...' that you can hand out to the ignorant gits. Alternatively, she could mock up a version along the line of this child is disabled.

But I find returning the tuts with an evil stare and mouthed he's disabled- go away works best

mcready's answer is best....... but I normally ask the receptionist how far behind the appnt time the dr is & then take ds2 for a walk around the graveyard (they don't tut) as the dr's is next to the church.
I did offer her my mobile no last time but she said "no thankyou just keep an eye on the time"

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pmsl at - "& then take ds2 for a walk around the graveyard (they don't tut)"

Thank you mymatemax !!!

Ds1 is noisy as well. Yesterday, we went to the library.
Ds1: "AHHHHH TWENTYFIVE, TWENTYFIVE, TWENTYFIVE. LIBRARY. RED RED RED. RED MAN STOP. GREEN MAN GO. RED MAN STOP GREEN MAN GO. RED MAN STOP GREEN MAN GO."
Me: (Putting fingers to lips) "Quietly".
DS1: AAAHHHHH AHHHHHHH AAAAHHHHH!!! RED MOUSE. BLUE CHAIR. HELLO HELLO HELLO HELLO."
Me: "Shhh, whisper."
Ds1: "WHISPER WHISPER WHISPER WHISPER AAAAHHHHHH!"
We didn't stay long.

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