Any positive autism stories please. ??!

[lollipoprainbow]

After reading a really depressing thread about autism and how people diagnosed with it will never fit into society, please can anyone offer some light relief/positivity or is It really all doom and gloom? My dd has just been diagnosed and I feel very anxious and fearful now after feeling ok about it initially.

Ds1 has atypical autism, dyspraxia and dyslexia.

He has particularly loved secondary school - the structure, routine, more anonymous, wider friendship pool.

He is predicted good grades in his GCSEs other than English (as expected with the dyslexia).

He has a good group of friends and was probably the most social of all my ds when restrictions lifted

He is single minded, determined, not swayed by others - these traits can be frustrating but also highly beneficial in the right circumstances

I think (hope) he will find his niche career.

@lollipoprainbow same mama! My DS is four and about to start primary, he struggles socially I can tell. Is so innocent with other children it hurts my heart and I worry sick he’s an easy target. It keeps me awake at night 😩
@lorisparkle so pleased to hear about your DS. He sounds amazing!

@lollipoprainbow

After reading a really depressing thread about autism and how people diagnosed with it will never fit into society, please can anyone offer some light relief/positivity or is It really all doom and gloom? My dd has just been diagnosed and I feel very anxious and fearful now after feeling ok about it initially.

My partner (33) has Aspergers (Aspergers is now seen as being under the autism umbrella). He attended uni and got a degree which has led him into an incredibly successful career. He has lots of friends and is very active and outgoing. He admits he struggled at school with socialisation but got better with practice and support from his loving parents. We have been together for 2 and a half years now and have recently bought a house together. He is an incredible person with great humour and such empathy and understanding for others. He credits the support of his parents and school for getting where he is today.

I can understand the worry you have after reading posts of others. It is so easy to fall down the path of thinking how hard the future is going to be, but something I'm slowly learning is that we will never know what tomorrow will bring. We can only live for today and hope for tomorrow. I'm sure your little one will live a happy and fulfilling life with the support you give

Thanks @BlossomingSlowly

The thing is, 'Autism' covers such a broad spectrum.
There are many, many successful people who have autism - particularly in the tech world, but also tend to be in math, physics, and across many scientific fields.
I know quite a few adults with autism who are married, with jobs, families, hobbies, and communities and friends around them.
Each person is an individual but a diagnosis of autism doesn't mean the person won't fit into society or that it will all be doom and gloom.

My autistic DS is the light of my life. His joy is completely pure, he loves me completely and trusts me. Every little achievement that most parents would not even notice is like somebody handing me a precious jewel. The first time he peddled a bike, the first time he pulled his pants up by himself. Amazing.

I honestly can't believe how lucky I am to have him.

DS1 is loving, affectionate, smart and funny. It's not always plain sailing and there are many days where it's like living with a cross betweem Victor Meldrew and Kevin the Teenager, but I love the person that he is. Obviously I love him because he's my son, but I'm very proud of him and love his personality.

He's not a party animal, but he is well liked and has a great best friend. He's actually settled into close friendship more easily than the extrovert DS2!

People with ASD are individuals and by default, to get diagnosis there will inevitably be some kind of challenge, but they can also be great company. It's often a mixed blessing (and being NT is often no guarentee of plain sailing either).