Going to visit sn nursery

[meea]

Have just made an appointment to look round a local sn nursery. I am now sitting here in tears wondering if it's the right thing to do.The senco sounded lovely asked who his portage worker was and guess what she's going in this afternoon so they can have a chat about ds2.I dont know how to explain what i'm feeling I guess this was something I wanted to do on my own before involving other people as everyone has an opinion and I wanted to make my own mind up.Did that make sence oh god I wish I could talk to my mum.

meea, know exactly what you mean. It's so hard when you feel as if the professionals are all 'discussing' your child and making 'decisions' without you. However, IMO, special needs nurseries CAN be very good. More members of staff and better equipment (didn't work for my DD but that's another story!). Can you arrange a meeting with both of them at the same time? Did they not invite you to the meeting they are having this afternoon? I'm really sorry you can't talk to your mum . Big hugs and lots of love.
ps I have that family fund form for you but have lost your address- CAT me with it again and I'll send...

Oh meea,how long did you try the mainstream nursery for, can't they give you the extra support,do you feel you are being forced in SN nursery or do you want more information so that you have a choice? Sorry so many questions , so many issues. You know how I'm feeling at the moment too.
My dd does attend a SN nursery 2 sessions a week and it is felt that a combination of that & mainstream will suit her needs better.
I'm sorry that you feel so alone in this too. I have no answers for you but if you ever want to email me, please feel free to CAT.
(((HUGS)))

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He has been at mainstream nursery since April but things have come to a head since he increased from 1 day to 2 days.It is silly things like letting him sit with his legs crossed instead of long sitting may not seem important to them but they havent spent months doing physio to straighten him out.They just don't seem intersted in getting involved and definatly dont want outside support.They know he has speech therapy but have never asked what they can do to help.We are also wondering if a combination of mainstream and sn will be right for him.
Thanks for the hugs I really needed them today.

My friend's little girl did a combination of mainstream and SN and it did work well. But your nursery doesn't sound even nearly supportive enough. Maybe you need a combination of SN nursery and a more understanding new nursery who will accept outside support? Do you know what was said at this afternoon's meeting? MORE {{{{HUGS}}}}

meea, I'm so sorry. I have no experience of this, but it does strike me that the nursery sond unusually crap and uninterested. I feel certain that there are mainstream nurseries would would care enough to make allowances and help rather than hinder.

meea - My dd is in a mainstream with an attached language unit. It works so well for dd as she has the best of both worlds. Straight mainstream just didn't work as we did try. If you want to know more please feel free to ask or CAT me

meea, ditto what has been said really. I'm having me doubts about dd's mainstream nursery, mainly due to the ratios. But at the end of the day they do seem very supportive, even though they want her to settle in a bit first before they take any action. They already have copies of our SALT program, want copies of Portage check list....I know that doesn't guarantee that they will do anything about them at least they have made all the right sounds IYKWIM.
All I can say is that it was recommended that a combination of both SN and mainstream SHOULD work well for her. Just because the nursery isn't willing to "adjust" it doesn't mean that another mainstream won't.
It's an awful situation, all you want is what's best for your ds and there doesn't seem to be any b**ger on your side.
more hugs.

They didnt get chance to discuss ds2 yesterday so we got to look round with out them knowing anything about us or him.Which was what I wanted from the start.It turns out that the resouce is a room within the mainstream nursery and the children from the resource or intigrated into the mainstream part for the bits that are appropriate for them. He would get transport to and from nursery but we would have to go to panel to see if he is suitable for a place.I dont think I came across very well this morning as i was that tired I could hardly stand up.
It may also be possible for him to be transported to his present nursery for the afternoon session.This seem to me like it could be the best answer as his present nurseey has it's good points and he is already in nursery 2.
I will cat people tomorrow when ds2 is at nursery as he has wiped my message out once already