Dd won't let me or teacher help her

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My dd hates being helped to do anything, she tells me she keeps getting told off in class for not listening but her teacher advised me yesterday that she isn't telling her off just supporting my daughter but she takes it as a personal affront that the teacher is trying to help. She's the same at home with me trying to help with reading and maths and huffs off if I gently try to help her. She has school meals and the teacher has advised that she is struggling to use cutlery, but when I tried to show her at home how to hold her knife and fork it was the same again, getting annoyed that I was trying to help her.!! Any suggestions ??

Junior caring cutlery has indentations where to put the index finger, so it's almost impossible to use 'wrongly' perhaps just get some and put it on the table for her with her food and see how she copes without saying anything.

Check online for prices, they vary immensely for the same product.

As for helping her which she perceives as criticism then wants to reject your help - can you turn the situation around where you ask for her help to do something you are "stuck" on and then you can gently have a back and forth dialogue where it seems as though she has found the solution and helped you?

Has she had any tests for language comprehension, processing speed, executive function, following instructions etc.? These can help immensely to identify how she receives, understands, processes and retains information.
If the information she needs is given to her in the right way for her, she'll not need so much help.