my son is 3 and half now, we have been to see the consultant paed and he wants to see us again next June, he thinks my son has asd traits, not a diagnosis.... I have mixed feelings about this atm.
my ds has early years support at nursery twice a week, he is getting one to one help, it is not in place yet, but I have been told they will have someone for him very soon.
I live in Scotland, my ds goes to a pre-school attached to the school he will eventually go to, when he is 5(so glad he is not starting school next year), so he will have lots of support, without a diagnosis.
he also has speech therapist, who is organising some kind of umbrella type group of professionals to meet and talk about my ds... all this without a diagnosis of anything... I am not really sure what I am trying to say, you can get support without a dx, is it the right support, I am not sure, I still feel very clueless about it all, not having a dx means I cannot focus on one thing being a problem, is that good or bad?
I do remember when my dd was at another pre-school nursery, they had some concerns about her, just about the time they had some chats about autism at the school, I spoke to my hv and she told me not to worry( I think my dd is eccentric, may have some traits but they are not effecting her school life atm)
it might be worth getting your friend to talk to hv or doctor, just to discuss this?