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Lindtnotlint · 16/04/2021 12:15

Hello,

Hoping for some advice on how to handle something with my nearly 8 yo DD. She is doing really well, no behavioural problems, flourishing at school etc etc. When she was younger she was a bit sensitive/fussy - angsty about food spills, found the classroom noisy, liked to wear a particular hat all the time- etc. But nothing that ever became a big issue at all. Now she seems to have got over all of that.

Here comes the but. Which I know might seem super minor, and probably is. But I am interested in advice on how to handle it so it stays minor and to build resilience as she starts to enter tween/teen years.

She is EXTREMELY tidy and organised. Everything in her room has a place, each book has a particular place on the shelf. She is also a genius at finding things, even if they don’t belong to her - like a sibling’s lost shoe or whatever. This is all ok. It gets more tricky with some things that seem
more difficult for her - the main one is she has to line up her pillow centrally to her bed before she can sleep. This takes multiple checks to measure the gap on each side, and if I try to “jolly her through it” she gets quite upset. She used to do something similar before she left her room in the morning, obsessively checking that the lights were off.

It’s obviously a small thing in the grand scheme of life, but I am not sure whether to try to stop her (how?) or what. My internet sleuthing seems to suggest that you shouldn’t “indulge” OCD (if that’s what it is the beginning of). But I don’t know how to handle in practice....especially to start building techniques for if this gets “bigger”.

I know it’s not a big thing. (Especially compared to what many others handle). But would love any advice.

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AmaryllisNightAndDay · 16/04/2021 12:29

It is only one thing, and if it is small enough, then I would simply be accep it and not get involved. I would only worry if it does start to get bigger, meaning if she starts to add other obsessions, or if it takes longer and longer and each night.

Jollying her out of it is feeding the problem with attention. But equally don't let it become a battle for control, e.g. that you are not allowed to leave the room until her pillow is lined up and she expects you to stay until she is happy with it. You can put the pillow in the middle for her and kiss her goodnight. But if she is not satisfied, then lining the pillow up better is for her to do by herself before she goes to sleep, if she chooses.

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