Hi I’ve never been on here before and a little wary as it’s mumsnet and I’m a man but hopefully you guys are nice to me ha
I need advice , direction and contacts , here it is , me and my partner have a child our only child she’s 12 years old and attends secondary school now as they’ve recently returned but when she goes in it’s rare and on and off but mostly off , due to what we suspect as low self esteem , anxiety issues , sensitive nature , we don’t yell at her for this we try and be as disciplined as possible always as we don’t want to affect her in more ways we want to help but the thing is we don’t know the real issue , if we did we could address it , she won’t open up , very rare moments we think she may but leads to nothing we have contacted TAHMS which is a mental health thing for children I think , correct me if I’m wrong , my partner deals with them , but nothings getting done !! She’s at home getting no education and not socialising with other kids and to us it’s a downwards spiral , I need help please anybody reading this have you had the same or similar issues ? Are there other schools for this that are suitable? Homeschooling with a tutor ? CBT counsellor , we don’t know where to turn , don’t get me wrong sometimes we can try the tough love approach but it doesn’t work , she’s so stubborn , we are her parents and to be honest I think she would listen more to an authortive figure outside of the family , , thank you for reading this I appreciate it and would love a response , thank you