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URGENT - any SS worker who could advise proedure re CA allegation pls?

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52andblue · 09/12/2020 10:08

My ds, 16 has been accused by another child of confessing to her that he is worried he might have behaved inappropriately around 4 years ago, with his younger sister (now 13).

The other child has a long history of both bullying my ds (who had a sucidide atttempt in Aug due to this) and making false allegations (phoning the school during lockdown to claim he had run away). She is a very damaged kid. School and Cyps are aware of this but little support has been offered to us. I have recently made a complaint to school with the backing of Cyps.

School called SS and then called me to discuss at 3pm yesterday. They have previously suggested that I sort this with the girl's Father and did so again!. I think I can prove all the above by paper trail but I am concerned about ds being interviewed by SS. I realise I cannot prevent that but he has a tendency to admit to things when being questioned that are simply not true so I am worried. I have carefully questioned both my children separately. My dd says@ nothing has ever happened. My ds says he once saw her getting changed and she once asked him about 'the birds and bees after I'd told her about them but nothing happened'.
I am satisfied that this is true but I appreciate SS have to do their job and be satisfied too.
School describe ds as a 'vulnerable young man'. So does his Psych.
SS say this is a 'very serious allegation'. I agree.
Should he have a lawyer with him or something? (scared for him!)
They called me last night and are due to call back sometime today 'after the SS worker has a conversation with her manager'.

Can any SS worker advise please? Pm if possible.

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BoobsOnTheMoon · 14/12/2020 14:33

Ring his psychiatrist and support worker now. Ask them for advice and see if the support worker can be his advocate. See if they can speak with SS about your DS and the situation.

crazymare20 · 14/12/2020 14:51

@52andblue that is fine. He will not be happy as children have to seen within a set time frame and they are leaving it to the final day which will come back on their performance. This is not your issue it is theirs.

52andblue · 14/12/2020 15:24

I have called a local lawyer.
they know the school (awful) and who made the referral (ditto).
They know the SW and his manager.
They are calling the Manager to speak to him about best way for Ds to be 'interviewed'.
Meantime SW called to say 'it's okay, you can be there'
this is good but I am aware that there is a Qu of 'whether I knew' so I am keen not to be iyswim as I don't want any further complications.
I said thank you and understand that Lawyer was contacting SW Dept so can we speak again after that.
Happy to meet tomorrow, very compliant.
They are definately suspicious about the legal involvement.
I hope I've not done wrong re that but no other advocate available (very rural, v short notice)

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52andblue · 14/12/2020 16:03

sorry, that was for @crazymare20

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vjg13 · 17/12/2020 17:41

I think getting legal support was a really sensible choice.

52andblue · 18/03/2021 10:39

Just an update:

The legal support was quite wishy washy.
The SW seemed confused.
I've still had nothing in writing.
I asked for a contact email but was told No.
I assume that 'no news is good news' but my poor kids are now back in the school with the young person who made the allegation (I am driving them so they don't have to get on the ordinary public 'school' bus as just them and other kid and no witnesses)

I am STILL waiting to hear from SS (so much for 45 days!)

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