Feel as though life on hold and I’m missing out

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It’s a moan and I feel so selfish!

Dd is Autistic. Life is v complicated and revolves around helping her and trying to get her into school, managing her anxiety, problems with our house and caring for another couple of family members.

I see friends and other members of family, going out, having meals out, treating themselves to beauty treatments, clothes, lovely days out as couples or family, trips away...and I feel envious. I feel life is on hold, passing me by. Don’t get me wrong,
I adore my family, it’s just not easy and I’m so exhausted! I only get out to see family, car for family members, pop to shops, school runs (3 or 4 trips a day), trying to work - v part time. H and I can’t get out along together at all, as DD too anxious to be left and has many many triggers currently.

It’s a woe is me post, apologies!

This is what I did:
Removed myself off all social media
Did the pick up and realised how other parents coped in a SS and that helped with perspective
Any spare moment I had in the car i got a posh coffee through a drive thru
Soon realised that people’s perfect lives all carry something and whilst that didn’t please me, it again gave me perspective , People’s real life isn’t a Disney fairytale all the time
Started to think of how many positives came in comparison to last year
Booked a massage every now and again when finances permitted
Focused on my own image. I realised that I was unhappier and everything was a bit rubbish when I was overweight
In my darkest moments realised when I needed to go to the doctor and ask for help.

When you do pop to the shops or re in your errands, think about how you can make it a bit “nicer” for yourself. Eg posh coffee