DS has HFA, intelligent and gradually becoming more independent (eg travelling to and from school on public bus) but erratic in his behaviour.
Secondary school started well but went downhill with regards to behaviour - the school and its SEN department had a lot of problems eg with staff turnover which didn’t help but we didn’t want to move him before GCSEs. He had huge problems jumping through the hoops and producing written work in some subjects in the run-up to mocks and we all knew that getting good grades would be a gamble - on his day he’s exceptional but on a bad day he’d just walk away.
He was offered a place for A levels at a different sixth form (previous school had no sixth form) which I accepted on the telephone and it went on his sixth form. GCSE results ranged from 2-6 but includes 6 passes at level 4/5. I received no contact from LA or allocated school but when I chased 6th form they said that he hadn’t made their required grades.
After long discussions with LA he still doesn’t have a place. He hasn’t been in school since March.
He wants to resit GCSEs so that he can take A levels, but previous school says it’s not in his best interests to return there (they have a point TBF, but it’s the same syllabus and a familiar setting). All his former teachers agree that A levels are the right route for him rather than BTECs, but it would be a huge ask, so resits would be his best option to get where he wants to go. The obvious answer is to HE for a year with online tutors etc but I think he needs to be out of the house, and we’ve been doing a frankly poor job of motivating him to do school work so far - he needs teachers. We could afford to go private if necessary but I’m not sure anywhere private (especially not a crammer which would be the obvious choice) would offer the right support.
I think LA is going to make us appeal but I’m honestly not sure what to appeal for. Even if we did force his way into a sixth form for A levels it’s a huge ask after missing the first month.
I’m absolutely desperate - can anyone offer any words of wisdom?