IF anyone else has a dc who sounds like this, could you come & talk to me?

[kickassangel]

Just had the 'settling in' parents' eve tonight & the teacher has confirmed what I hav been fretting over for a long time.

DD is lovely, very well behaved & happy child. Hates getting into trouble & wants to be a 'good girl'
However,
she seems to have problems with her hearing, but it has been tested & is 100% perfect. I have no doubt that she hears everything going on around her. She just seems to 'blank out' what is happening around her, particularly if she is tired/it's noisy, new, difficult etc. She can also get VERY over hyper - more so than any of her friends. Agin when tired, in a new place etc.
Teacher has suggested that she is referred to GP to find out what tests can be done etc. The teacher gave me a double booking to give us time to chat, so this isn't a little teething problem, but possibly a long term issue.

dd does respond to star charts, praise & time out. there have been times when she thought she was doing as she was meant to but she was 'banned' from a ballet class because of her behaviour! (Too much jumping & not listening because she was excited)

Come & tell me what's wrong & cheer me up. I am getting silly & upset over this, but I am worried about my dd.

(Also in the middle of getting dinner so will check back in a few minutes)

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Hi kickassangel

My ds often has difficulties attending and sitting still etc. Your situation sounds a bit different but i'm sure someone on the SN board will be able to give you some advice.

My ds has traits of ADHD as well as AS/ASD but no dx as yet. Did the teacher give you any idea as to what they felt might be the problem?

dd also useless at sitting still! teacher's first suggestion was hearing, but dd has already had this checked - because a doctor thought she wan't hearing properly due to her ignoring them!

some of her traits are on the autistic scale, but she also is defnitely not on the scale for others.

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Hi kissassangel, my 4.10 yr old son had his hearing tested when he was 2.6 as I was very concerned at the time, would not respond to his name. The test came back normal. Now I have a very bright, chatty and often loud son who is very well behaved most of the time, hates to make mistakes or getting into trouble.
He has recently been seen by a Clinical Child Psychologist who is recommending a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome the meeting is on the 17/10. However I have recently come across Sensory Integration Disorder which is very common for children on the ASD.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_integration_dysfunction

I fully recommend this book " The Out of Synch Child " for further info please visit:

www.bookdepository.co.uk/WEBSITE/WWW/WEBPAGES/showbook.php?id=0399531653

At the diagnostic/planning meeting the Educational Psychologist will be asking that he gets referred to the Occupational Therapist for the assessment of SID.

Hope this helps you and I wish you all the best with your findings.

thanks, it does seem that there is something 'unusual' about dd. when left to herself 7 just pottering around, you wouldn't know. but seeing her settle in to school the first few days i was convinced that i was right. it was kind of picked up on at nursery, but so much more free time there that not really an issue. again, noticed at a couple of different dance classes, but she was the youngest there so that was the 'reason'
the teacher is lovely, but did really seem to think that we need to see a gp for advice.
keep thinking that maybe i am just too soft on here & this is behaviourla, but she is so compliant, happy & easy to reason with when she 'hears' you. surely if this was 'deliberate naughtiness' then there would be scenes of defiance, tantrums etc? or am i just delusional & need to be stricter?

Hi kissassangel, ALWAYS REMEMBER the only person who truly knows their child is their mother/guardian. You must always follow your gut instincts as you know her strengths and weaknesses. I have delved into the " World of Autism " as I really wanted to understand my very complex son. With the knowlegde that I have I can honestly say that I no longer look at a "naughty" child instead I see a child having problems. Believe you me there is ALWAYS a reason for inappropriate behaviour and I truly believe that so often a child just does not get it.

I hope you have a good GP, one who truly listens, observes and follows up ? This may help you:

www.everychildmatters.gov.uk/_files/F71B9C32893BE5D30342A2896043C234.pdf

All the Best mum2boys

I wonder whether it might be auditory processing disorder? Here

My ds1 (7yrs and with ASD) has very sensitive hearing. When it gets noisy he blocks it all out, which means that he also doesn't realise when someone is speaking to him.

Ds2 (4yrs and with AS) has similar difficulties. He is very active at the best of times but gets seriously hyper when he is tired. Lots of running around and jumping.

Things that can help:

• Say dd's name at the beginning of the sentence if you are speaking directly to her. She will then know to stop 'filtering' and you in turn will feel less frustrated if you don't have to keep repeating the instruction over and over again.

• Noise-reducing headphones. The OT can provide these or you can buy them yourself. they filter out a lot of the noise but your dd will still be able to hear.

• Sensory integration work. Our school (m/s primary) offers sensory integration exercises. They can be used to help calm some children down or to wake up others (like me ds1). Again an OT should be able to help.

Another possibility is that sometimes there is a delay between the person speaking and the brain actually processing the information. I have this difficulty myself. Sometimes I will think I haven't heard because of my impaired hearing but then about 10 seconds or so later my brain sems to suddenly pass on the information. It's hard to explain it properly but it does mean that often I am trying to work out what the first sentence was while the person speaking is now on their 3rd or 4th sentence.

My dd 4yrs old was similar to your dd 4 months ago, apart from the fact she hit out at times aswell. She was a mystery to health professionals, they were considering autism dx but it not fit completely. School weer worried as they had a nightmare year in nursery and they said she would need major input and may not cope in reception, would have to come home for lunch, have 1-1 etc... I came across sensory intergration dysfunction (sensory processing disorder) in march and took her to see an OT in June for assessment. She had def sensory issues. Now 17 weeks of therapy (90mins every week) she is a different child (sure she was replaced by aliens!!!) She started school three weeks ago full time and although she has occasional off days, she has been fab. No agression, listening so much better, not running off - unbelievable. Not having 1-1 at school anymore. We owe so much to the therapy.