My mum has really pissed me off!

[Nat1H]

Was in the park today with my mum, dad, DS1 and DS2 (has CP, in a wheelchair). We called at the sweet shop for a drink and chocolate, and I suggested we sit down while the kids ate their snack. I pointed to a bench nearby, but my mum physically shuddered, looked like she was going to puke, and said 'No, we'll sit over here.'
I then looked properly at the bench I had originally pointed to, and realised there was an older child with CP in a wheelchair sat next to the bench. He was obviously more disabled than my son, but I was horrified to think that this was the reason she chose not to sit there. I didn't say anything to her about it, but the more I think about it, the more I feel ill! I know she loves DS2 to bits, but if she didn't know him, would she feel like this about him as well? She seems to be a lot less understanding of other peoples views and problems as she gets older. Is she just getting old or has she alwsys been so small-minded?
How would you feel if your mum had done this when she was with you? Am I being totally unreasonable?

I understand your upset and I would have felt the same. but i can kind of understand her reaction.
when dd(now 12) was in pre school i made the mistake of looking round the secondry department and it scared me shitless. the young adults seemed huge compared to dd and way more disabled.
as the years have passed and she has grown I am no longer scared. so maybe (I hope) that is how she felt.

Thanks for that 2shoes. I hadn't thought about that! I am used to seing older disabled kids as I have worked in lots of SEN schools, and so now I don't even think about it. Looking back, I felt the same when I was first in this environment. Hopefully, this is just what it was.

Yeah me too 2shoes.. we looked round a 4-16 age range special school when DS was 3.. it frightened the life out of DH and I.

You should have asked her what she was shuddering about Nat (sorry to tell you what you should have done! ), then you could have had this convo with her.

jave to say I now say to any parents of under 5's Don't do it lol