ASD son driving me mad with moaning

[HotPenguin]

Help, my DS who is 7 is driving me up the wall with his constant moaning and negativity. Every activity I try and do with him he says is boring. Getting him dressed in the morning is a nightmare. Every meal he hates. Any time his brother has any success or gets any praise he throws a tantrum saying it's not fair and he hates his brother. He constantly criticises his brother and tries to control his play and everything he does.

He is making life a misery for everyone.

I know that moaning is his way of reacting to a difficult situation so it's probably his way of dealing with what's happening but I am seriously losing my mind trying to deal with him.

Any advice or insights that can help me get this in perspective would be appreciated as I keep ranting at him about how unpleasant he is to live with which I appreciate is probably making it worse

Didn’t want to read and run. Off the top of my head...
Do you have a visual timetable?
If he’ll leave the house can you really, really exhaust him? (This is impossible for my DS - he can go forever, but an hour or so at the park kicking a ball helps).
Can he sort the tinned food cupboard for you? Totally pointless but potentially very interesting.
Put him in the bath?
Indulge his latest obsession? We let DS cut footballers from his magazines to make a collage. We could decorate our entire home with the results.
I hope that sparks a few ideas. Solidarity, sister.

Thank you, the footballer collage is a good idea as he has lots of old football magazines. We've tried to do a timetable but it doesn't work that well as we keep having to flex it to deal with work commitments, food shopping etc.

Can you suggest that one day he plans his day and writes it down eg what to have for dinner, two activities etc then you can add the non negotiable things to it? I have had to listen to a lot of world war 2 stories while playing with tiny soldiers but it does help improve his mood for a while if he has chosen it and I join in.