Being cooped up together through lockdown is so hard. My son (diagnosed) and husband (not diagnosed!!) are both autistic and they don't get on at the best of times - let alone now when they are together all the time. They have extremely similar traits and anxcieties but are also very different. My husband cannot cope with any type of mess noise or disorder so being at home with 2 children who are needing to do school work. times when they do art and craft , cooking and baking, and an 11 yr old son who is dance crazy tips him over the edge. It is impossible to have an immaculate and quiet house at this time. I have to work 2 days a week but my husband can not stay home with them because they push him to breaking point - my son knows that his dad doesn't like him so he purposely winds him up by putting his music on loud or getting the craft stuff out and putting pencils on the floor etc. He also loves saying the f word on repeat. My husband NEVER praises him for anything - he thinks he is weird and is embarassed by his creativity so cannot watch him when he performs. My son is struggling all his acting classes and shows have been cancelled so he just dances and acts at home now. My husband relishes his own company and in the school time because he works shift work he got some of this but not now. I am telling him he has to relax and let them dance, do craft , cook and bake but he says the house is being wrecked. In the school time he keeps it immaculate cleaning is his obsession he will spend a whole morning shining the door knobs and then when someone touches it to open the door and leaves a finger mark he says his whole time of shining them to perfection is wasted. He will not change his little ways to fit around us (especially my son). My son hates loud noises and the hoover so i only hoover when he s outside but my husband will hoover when he deems necessary (every 2 hours!!!) and this just makes my son meltdown. My son is also scared of people entering our garden so when I am home I always have the gates shut just to make him feel safe but my DH will not do this as he says this is his child dictating to him. I am a key worker and need to work two days a week - I can't leave the kids with anyone due to the crisis so what do I do. I cannot leave them alone they will nearly kill each other with their stubborness towards each others quirks.