Feel like I’m neglecting my daughter during lockdown.

[nancyclancy123]

My dd has ASD and is almost 9. I’m trying to do activities with her, not necessarily home school things more to engage her, but she’s not interested.

Our days are spent, me doing my own thing and her doing her things. She’s quite happy playing with her toys, watching bits on her iPad and keeping herself entertained.
She’s verbal and able to express her needs, just feels like I’m not bothering with her.

If I do try and get her to do things, she’ll sometimes join in or she’ll ignore me.
I guess I’m just looking for reassurance that this is ok.

We are doing exactly the same with ds, he's 6. Any time we try to engage him it stresses him out. So we're just letting him get on with his own stuff and helping him when he needs us.

I'm not sure if it's the 'right thing' but we're just happy when he's calm.

Sounds like my 10 year old dd who has autism and adhd. We’ve done little bits but she finds home and school very different. Asking her to read to me for even ten minutes resulted in lots of shouting. We’re doing what we can, when we can.

Thanks for your replies, it’s reassuring to hear.
She’s got 2 much older brothers and when they come downstairs and dad comes home from work, she perks right up. So not sure if she is just quieter in the day time because the house is quieter?
I’m choosing to pick my battles though!

My dd says she likes the quiet on her own. She comes down occasionally and does some work (with a lot of pushing - we’re in the camp of doing something but not loads). She was very stressed before lockdown so we’re using this time to unwind as her stress levels build a lot when she’s at school. To be fair if I wasn’t watching my kids, I’d seek some peace and quiet in my room.