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AIBU to become irritated by...

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emkana · 11/09/2007 21:10

... threads along the lines of

my 18 month old can only walk a few steps or while holding hands, I am very worried, will she ever walk?

WTF?

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2shoesdad · 11/09/2007 21:34

no you are not. that sort of stuff gets to me as well.
I got irritated about the one about a child being a minority in her own country........wanted to post try being my dd

TotalChaos · 11/09/2007 21:38

as long as they are well-meaning worried well, then fair enough, someone will be along to reassure them soon enough.

Mind you my dear erm friend the other night semed to think it would amuse me to tell me "that by comparison to some of the other 18 months old, I come back
from seeing other kids and wonder if X (her own DS is "special" " . yeah, fecking hilarious comment that.

WotsZePoint · 11/09/2007 21:40

no you are not

2shoesdad · 11/09/2007 21:41

WotsZePoint · 11/09/2007 21:44

TotalChaos · 11/09/2007 22:29

emkana - you probably think I've lost my marbles on that thread ... but I'm just very jittery about the wait and see approach from my experience with DS - I was first worried about DS speech at 2.3, was fobbed off until he was 3, and he won't be seen until he is 3.11 years old.

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emkana · 11/09/2007 22:32

Fair enough totalchaos, but that poster really is worrying completely unnecessarily!

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emkana · 12/09/2007 21:41

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh

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Dinosaur · 12/09/2007 21:43

I have some sympathy because that "is there or isn't there anything wrong" worry is horrible

been through it with two DSs now

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emkana · 12/09/2007 21:48

I do understand worrying, I really do, but it's not reasonable to worry when your child is cruising and even taking a few unaided steps at 18 months, is it? Is it?

Ds is 15 months and I'm over the moon that he is commando crawling now...

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VeniVidiVernonHartshornNUMNQV · 12/09/2007 21:48

Well....you are a little bit.....

PFB's etc...

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emkana · 12/09/2007 21:52

harumph

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Dinosaur · 12/09/2007 21:57

Sorry, I kind of meant generally worrying, not worrying about walking in particular.

Am probably giving people too much benefit of doubt.

A whole day off mumsnet has filled me with benevolence, which will I know rapidly evaporate if I go on that MM thread...

Blossomhill · 13/09/2007 09:39

TBH I think people do have the right to worry. When it's your child it is totally different. I guess we look at things differently as children with sn/disabilities generally take longer to do things that most chidren find hard.
I would have been worried if say my ds (PFB) was 18 months when he walked if I am being totally honest.
So I think that it is taking each individual case into perspective and understanding that what may be nothing to one parent is a big concern to others.

GessGalloway · 13/09/2007 09:49

oh I learned to keep off those threads years ago followng an episode where I lost my temper on a "my 15 months old is only saying 500 words does he need SALT' thread.

don't read don't read don't read (damages the blood pressure).

coppertop · 13/09/2007 10:20

I'm a bit on the fence with this one. I remember freaking out a bit when dd started speaking very early, mainly because it brought back memories of ds2 and his early words that just disappeared. OTOH I've seen a few of those "My newborn doesn't make eye contact" threads and just don't understand them at all.

expatinscotland · 13/09/2007 10:21

Such things used to bother me. Then I found out that being an SN mum does have advantages! You don't bother about the 'My child is advanced' loop anymore. You've got your own club to go to instead!

staryeyed · 13/09/2007 11:42

As long as they are genuine concerns I dont see the harm but some of them are blatantly boasts in disguise- "Ds is doing this (insert anything way above normal age group)should I be worried?

GessGalloway was that a real thread or an exaggeration?

Davros · 13/09/2007 12:11

Har har, you old MNers will remember my greatest moment when I started the "Old Cow" thread.... Mind you, those were repetitive posts from the probably "worried well" on SN, about 5 all at the same time fgs. I agree with CT and BH, people should feel able to post with concerns and sometimes that is an indicator that they need help themselves, sometimes there is something to worry about and sometimes not. But I don't read them any more as I stick to SN only now. at the disguised boasts though, nothing surprises me when it comes to competitive parents!

TotalChaos · 13/09/2007 12:29

I remember that Davros, there were 2 or 3 in 48 hours, all along the lines of - worried about ASD, my child has brilliant conversation/social skills, but they line up cars sometimes. Then again think I was guilty of a few "does my baby have ASD ones ", so I can't talk. Everyone was very polite and helpful too.

coppertop · 13/09/2007 21:04

I posted a few "Does my baby have ASD?" threads too.

Did the "old cow" thread get deleted in the end?

coppertop · 13/09/2007 21:15

I've just found it. I loved Twiglett's cow link on it too.

2shoes · 13/09/2007 21:46

i am sorry but
no offence to the op but this sums up my frustration

dogtired · 13/09/2007 22:31

I do know what you mean emkana, but I've been through that really scary "is isn't he" phase and I posted all about it on here for a few months after my son was born just over 2 years ago. All the professionals in RL were telling he was fine, but I couldn't help worrying (understatement - I was terrified!), he now has a dx of dystonic cerebral palsy, can't sit, crawl, walk, speak etc...

Because of my experience, I actually have to restrain myself from posting on the sort of threads you're referring to things like; "well maybe you should trust your instincts, something is obviously worrying you - get him checked out with a paed asap..."

TotalChaos · 13/09/2007 23:22

If DS gets an AS/HFA diagnosis, I'll have to bump the old thread and say HA, told you so

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