FTM autism worried

[WorriedFTM95]

Hi to whoever is reading this and thank you in advance for taking the time to reply 😌
I’m a FTM to a beautiful little girl who is now 3.5 months old.
I seem to be getting myself into a mess lately and overthinking which is now really getting me down.
I have 2 brother on the spectrum. One has Aspergers, which is verrry mild to the point you wouldn’t even think he had it and my other brother is higher on the spectrum. I don’t believe any one else in my family has autism.
Whilst I was pregnant, I found out that I could have a test called “fragile x” which I did, and the results came back negative.
I find myself constantly searching online for autism signs in infants.
I love my brothers and would not change them for the world but Ive how hard it was for my mother and now I keep watching every move my baby is doing which is driving me insane, for example, on her jumperoo she likes to spin the ball but also likes to pull on a long, noisy rattle but I will focus on the spinning the ball as I heard autistic babies like to spin things. Also, I am constantly watching her eye contact, if she looks away from me I start to over think and get upset.
She is hitting all her milestones so far which is great.
I would like to hear from parents with children with autism and NT. what was your autistic child like as a baby? Have you got a NT child who has sibling/s with autism who have gone on to have NT children? When did you first have an idea your baby was autistic? What signs were there?
Thank you for reading and look forward to some responses! 😌😌

Our autistic son was a very happy placid baby and we had no concerns about him until he was about 2.

We had no concerns until 2ish. There were a few odd things earlier than that which in hindsight were probably red flags but at the time, with no other concerns, didn’t seem to amount to much.

Why don't you stop worrying and enjoy your baby for the lovely little girl she is?

Paediatricians and a team of experts can diagnose autism in children, but none would at such a young age. MChat-R isn't even done until 2 years of age.

By all means keep up with her developmental milestones and if she misses absolutely loads of them by a very long way then that's the time to raise concerns, but above all stop obsessing about something that may not happen, focus on enjoying the time you spend together every day.

I know she's very young and I may be overreacting and I apologise if I may have offended anybody but it's just that I am a young mom and have never really had any advice from my mom in relation to my brothers diagnosis'.

Everyone who has autism is different, you will see that in your brothers.
Autism in girls presents very differently to autism in boys, so even if your Mum gave you chapter and verse about each of your brothers, that may not apply to your daughter.

IF she's autistic, it will be evident at some point girls are woefully under-diagnosed, most mask very well and many are not picked up until secondary education or Uni or later.

NAS Diagnostics The characteristics of autism vary from one person to another, but in order for a diagnosis to be made, a person will usually be assessed as having had persistent difficulties with social communication and social interaction and restricted and repetitive patterns of behaviours, activities or interests since early childhood, to the extent that these "limit and impair everyday functioning".

Children can be diagnosed as autistic when they’re quite young, in some cases from the age of two. But not everyone is diagnosed early in life. It’s quite common for a child to not get their diagnosis until they are older, or even an adult, particularly if they don’t have accompanying learning disabilities.
www.autism.org.uk/about/diagnosis/children.aspx

the-art-of-autism.com/understanding-the-spectrum-a-comic-strip-explanation/

www.falkirk.gov.uk/services/social-care/disabilities/docs/young-people/Making%20Sense%20of%20Sensory%20Behaviour.pdf?

the-art-of-autism.com/hear-our-spectrum-of-voices-autistic-advocacy-comic/