how do I stop stressing about school??? a rant!!!

[emandjules]

Hi, my dd has just started reception class. She is 4 and has sensory issues and some think an asd. SHe does not mix with other children, runs off does not listen sometimes, has impulsive behaviour and hits out very occasionally. I dread school and picking her up cos I spend the whole time she is there stressing about what she has done today. At the end of the day what can I do about it, so should I stop stressing now about how school is coping with her. We are paying for private OT which has transformed her at home to such a calm child in just over 2 months. Hopefully this will carry over to school eventually. I think we are doing everything we can and yet I feel guilty about her behaviour.

Does anyone else think this way, or how do you stop feeling this way.

I still feel like this about ds1 (ASD) sometimes and he's 7.

I think it helps a bit if the school are good at communication with parents, either verbally or with a Home/School book. I tend to feel reassured when I know that someone will tell me if there are problems. That way when they say "He's fine. No problems" I believe them.

Ds2 (ASD) starts Reception next week so I'll be worrying with you.

Coppertop is right. If you feel you can trust the school to be honest then at least you can properly assess how its going. What do you think on that score? Maybe you should start thinking now about how to go about getting more support if and when necessary. Do they have a SENCo you can talk to?