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ASD son and revenge?

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CakeandCustard28 · 13/02/2020 12:59

Hoping Someone can advise please.
My 8 year old son has autism, adhd and learning difficulties. He is medicated for his adhd and because of this is usually very calm within school.
Today a girl at school threw a snow ball at his face, he wasn’t happy about this so pinned her down and bit her face and drew lots of blood. 😳
The school have not suspended him (I’m gathering because it’s a one off accident he is not normally violent at school, only at home.) and have kept him in class however said he is visibly very angry over this still.
We’ve had issues in the past where he gets stuck on wanting revenge but doesn’t know when to stop. One child upset him a few years ago and he didn’t drop getting his revenge on said child for 6 months! 🤦🏻‍♀️
And even though he’s bit the girl, he’ll be wanting more revenge. Any ideas how the hell to deal with this? He’ll be loosing his laptop and TV when he gets home but could do with advice on how to teach him revenge is wrong. The usual talking doesn’t work with him, have tried social stories in the past but they’ve also failed.
The teachers are saying he’s showing zero remorse too so that doesn’t help much either.
Thank you.

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CaptainKirksSpikeyGhost · 13/02/2020 20:24

Obviously he won't feel remorse as he still wants to act out some kind of revenge.

Thinking outside the box, if he doesn't get why it's wrong, maybe you should let him have revenge in a way which is harmless for everyone around him, which make him feel better but will not hurt anyone else.

Would he write about his revenge?
Draw a picture instead?
Worst case give him a voodoo doll....

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