Hi! Happy to answer anything you need to know.
He's in mainstream, with a My Support Plan in place. He sees a behaviour support teacher once a week and ELSA.
He basically has no respect for authority. He does what he wants. Will deliberately do the opposite of what he's been asked. Or will totally ignore what he's been asked to do, as though he can't hear you.
Nothing is ever his fault, even when he knows he's been seen doing something he will deny it. He tells lies, all the time.
Often when being 'told off' he gets incredibly angry or emotional, very quickly. It's like a toddler having a tantrum- throws himself around, cries etc.
He argues and answers back, even with teachers at school. He can be quite rude although often it's more that he's just spoken his mind without thinking of how that might make others feel.
He's totally egocentric. Can't see things from anyone else's point of view. It's all about him.
Academically he's always been above where he should be. He 'gets' new concepts easily and without much effort. Loves to read and write. (Has zero imagination yet writes amazing stories.) Despite coming across as quite 'big headed' about this at times, he's actually quite insecure and has very low self esteem. And the minute he finds something tricky he just loses interest and doesn't even want to try to learn it.
Socially and emotionally he's very immature- he has friends but gets in to disagreements easily and they get annoyed with his silliness.
He can become 'obsessed' for example with a certain band, football team, author... he'll find out everything about them, then move on to something new.
We are yet to find anything that helps. Anything that does work doesn't last. The only thing with any impact is removing his phone- he'll totally lose his temper if we have to take his phone away- but he doesn't learn from it so it's a waste of fine. He repeats the unwanted behaviour- sometimes within minutes of his phone being taken! We've tried soft and gentle, we've tried being firm, we've tried totally losing our shit! Nothing helps.
We do work really closely with his school, check in regularly, always support them (at least as far as he is concerned... in reality we don't always agree with how they deal with things and have had to make complaints in the past.... but we would never let him know that. To him we are a 'united front')