My DS, 7, was diagnosed as on the autistism spectrum around a year ago. With the diagnosis there were a number of recommendations for the school. But as my son gets on pretty well in structured lessons, the school say he doesn't need and doesn't qualify for any extra help.
However there are lots of problems. He gets very anxious about going to school and I sometimes have a job to get him there. He struggles at playtime and sometimes gets picked on. His social skills are obviously behind others. He has some restrictive behaviours, for example, refusing to try new things, do homework or join in with class activities. He can also be slightly disruptive in odd ways, eg talking to himself incessantly, not following instructions or acting the clown and this usually happens in less structured situations like PE.
I want school to do what's asked in my son's medical report. This includes trying to reduce his anxiety by using visual timetables, now and next or other techniques. Small group learning on emotional literacy and social awareness. And pastoral support to talk through problems he may be having and also help him with the practical side of school.
School are refusing to do any of this. I'd be grateful for perspectives on whether I am being unrealistic/over demanding in asking for these things? I don't think my son needs an EHCP but I do think he needs some lower level extra help. I am struggling to find advice online for SEN support that's below the EHCP level. Thanks for any advice.