I think dh is autistic

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We have a d's with autism and I'm seeing so many similar traits in my dh.
I'm also frustrated and feeling low cause dh seems totally not clued into the level of emotional support as well as physical support that I need. And yes I've told him many times.
Dh is so emotionally disconnected. He spends hours everyday doing stuff completely not relevant to family life.
I could go on and on. Anyone else in the same situation?

If you've told him many times, what does he say? Does he argue, make promises but not follow through, deny what you're saying?

If he is autistic then making your requests very clear and concrete might help, for example less "I need more physical and emotional support" and more "Can you please do bedtime for the time being? I'm feeling really overwhelmed and it would help me."

It's not unusual for a parent to have the same AN as their child.
Look online for the AQ test, if he's amenable, ask him to do it, if he's not, do it yourself as though you were him and see the scores, remember it's not diagnostic, only gives an indication.

If it's likely that he is, consider whether a diagnosis may help him or not. If so, how-to www.autism.org.uk/about/diagnosis/adults.aspx

If he is, there are support threads in Relationships, but be aware there are a lot of very negative comments on there.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3524836-Married-to-someone-with-Aspergers-support-thread-4-replacement-one?pg=1

Yes, I'm sure mine is, the developmental paediatrician thought so too and told me when he had left the room. I know what you mean about lack of emotional support or back up, plus for hours on end. Seems to tale hobbies to extremes.

@BlankTimesthank you for the link and info above.