I'm a relative newbie to this part of MN, so please redirect me if I'm in the wrong place.
DS (7) has a diagnosis of ADHD and anxiety. We've recently moved him to a new school for Y3 and have hit a few bumps in the road. They don't seem to have taken on board that he's disabled rather than naughty, despite all the documentation he came with. He can lash out and tantrum when he's upset or provoked, which they've responded to with internal exclusions (which of course, stigmatise him and increase his isolation from his peer group).
He doesn't have an ECHP, and we were advised by his previous school and the LA Ed Pysch he'd be unlikely to get one, as he functions well most of the time when he's not triggered. He does take ADHD meds, but we are still in the process of getting the dose right. My husband and I were wondering if anyone has looked into the option of paying for a 1:1 themselves - I know this is but a sticking plaster and removes some of the responsibility from the school/LA but we can definitely afford something, and I think it would help in the short term. Has anyone tried this? Is it even possible?