Any ADHD online groups for girls?

[SueyJ]

Hi.

My DD, 12, is starting to struggle with her self esteem. She has ADHD but doesn't know anyone else with it. She's aware all her peers are annoyed with her for overly talking and not being able to concentrate in class.
She's lost most of her friends. Although she's lovely and so polite her peers don't have time for her.
I've asked CAMHS if there's any other girls near us but they said not, and there's none on a FB group I'm in.
She just needs to feel there's nothing wrong with her and that she fits somewhere before it seriously affects her.  Such an impressionable age, I feel she's benefit from talking to other girls her age or maybe a bit older with ADHD.
Are there any group chats or forum for UK kids, preferably girls, that are available?

Hiya, I am soooo please to see this thread. My daughter (11) has very recently been given a dual diagnosis of Autism and ADHD. What you are describing is exactly how my daughter is. She very polite and caring but other children just dont get her, something she has been really struggling with for years but I feel the older she is getting the more obvious it is becoming. Xxx

Thank you so much for replying.

Yes definitely! The older my daughters getting the more problematic her symptoms are in her life.

I've tried to offer other clubs/groups for her to join but she now says there's no point because she's scared she'd be 'too much' for anyone to want to be friends with. That's quite hard for me to hear from her.

Does your daughter take medication? My DD just started this summer as we noticed more and more that she just cannot concentrate in class enough. She even zones out at the start of chats with me. We've tried two kinds but they're not working. She was hoping they would so she could get I in school better.

If you're on Twitter it might be worth asking there with the hashtag #ADHD or #Neurodiversesquad. There are definitely a lot of young women with ADHD on Twitter and may be worth finding some with YouTube channels - could be nice for your DD to hear how other girls coped with their teenage years and that things got better!

Great idea!! Thanks Light

We are awaiting a paediatric referral which is coming end of November. Signs are all pointing to ADHD. My DD is only 6 but I worry so much for the future that is seriously affecting my mental health. I'm not too concerned about the academic side but I can't stand the thought of her being lonely at school.

This website may also be worth a look? Siena is autistic and has ADHD. Her story is quite tough, as she did get bullied at school (and by school) so probably not something to give your DD directly, but I know she's been involved in a lot of interesting advocacy stuff so it may be worth having a look to see if any of that would be useful.
www.qlmentoring.com/
www.neurodiversity-celebration-week.com/

Aw I really do relate to everything you're saying! Its soooo hard to hear them put themselves down isn't it! My daughter only got diagnosed last week and they have advised me that it would be really helpful for her to go onto medication but I'm really worried that it will change her and I dont want that I just want her to be able to get through school easier. It's sooo hard. My daughter sometimes can tell that shes being too much and other times doesnt understand. Do you feel like medication has helped your daughter in anyway? Hiw does she feel about taking medicine? X

Thanks everyone for your suggestions :)

30goingon90 it took two years before I agreed for her to try medication. I also didn't want to give her it but when she started high school she struggled so much more. She said herself that she wanted to try medication as she wanted to be able to focus in class and also try learn to play guitar!
She's tried two types of medication so far but they aren't helping as yet, so still can't focus in class or have guitar lessons either unfortunately. I just worry she'll become disengaged with school and lose all self esteem before we get the correct type and dosage for her.
Don't let anyone decide for you though, she's your child and you will know what's best for her.

I've just found a good YouTube channel 'How To ADHD' so thought I'd share. It's a lady ADHDer and she has easy to watch videos on there (I cried at most as they were relatable to my DD and like Hotchocolateee I worry for her future...and I'm a softie), plus there's videos for teachers etc. Worth a look.

Sorry for the late reply SueyJ I dont seem to be getting notifications. Sorry to hear that your daughter hasn't been able to find the right type of medication yet. Hopefully she will find something that helps soon. I'm still unsure what to do. Going to take a look at the YouTube videos you suggested x