Advice needed please on this situation.

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As ds goes to a different school from dd I pick him up first and then go round and collect dd. Thankfully the schools are just 1 road apart!
Anyway I collect dd from the language unit as she stays with her lsa. As I was walking in I over heard the following "I would say she has ADHD as well" and as I walked in the other lady looked really embarrased and said "Oh doesn't like to flit from one thing to another". I don't know if you are all aware of this but dd went to CAMHS last year and had a dx of ADHD which in some ways I do agree with but do not think she has full blown but that it is due to the language difficulties. The school also didn't feel at that time that dd had ADHD and when I told them that we were offered Ritalin they were horrified and said they wouldn't like to think of dd taking them.
To sum up I am not happy about these 2 lsas talking about dd like that. I actually am not very keen on dd's new lsa and much preferred last years who was more motherly and loving. the new one (who isn't new exactly but works with the year 1 language base children) seems very stern and I don't like her tone sometimes (please this is not an attack on teachers honestly I love dd's class teacher, she is great!).
If they have concerns about ADHD surely they should be voiced to me. Should I raise this but have to be aware that there is a slim chance they were discussing someone else, although I am 99% they were?
Any advice gratefully received.

Horrid to overhear something like that and very tricky to know what to do. Though I completely understand why you are upset that they were discussing your dd, I guess you could look at it that they were 2 concerned professionals discussing a child in their care. And while of course you would like them to discuss it with you, I think it is probably quite common for teachers/therapists to discuss things among themselves. I guess in the same way most people would discuss their work with others. But of course I don't know what the tone was and if it just seemed gossipy then that is totally different. Also, assuming dd was actually there they really shouldn't have been discussing it infront of her, whether it was about her or another child.

If you like dd's class teacher could you maybe raise it with her? And say, look I overheard this, and I'm not 100% sure they were talking about dd but obviously if they were I need to discuss this with you. i.e approach from the concerned parent point of view rather than pissed off parent!

Do you know what HITC I hadn't thought of that, talking infront of dd. When I walked in it was so obvious I had caught them talking you know when it's like oh and then talking complete rubbish to cover yourself.
I can't wait for this week to be over. Although had a long chat with the SALT manager for our borough. Spoke at length about dd and was talking more about dx. She said that a language disorder is a valid diagnosis it's just that the term is not known generally. She said to look at dd's language disorder in the same way as a child that is deaf, blind etc. They have a disability in a certain area. So the chat was quite interesting and informative.
jimjams - I told her that I had ordered that book (teach me language) and she asked me to let her know what I thought. If it was any good they would but some copies!
I really am in 2 minds what to do. I don't want it to look like I keep going in but on the other hand I don't want to let it go. Tricky!

I would mention to class teacher or head that I had over heard a conversation I should not have heard and thought it was unprofessional and certainly not the Lsa 's job to label children in their care and leave it at that .

The only thing that worries me is that I don't have evidence and what if I had misheard. Although I know I didn't. Why am I doubting myself?

I wouldn't be too happy if they were discussing any of the children in the unit/school in front of another child. I think that there is a time and a place for such conversations (whichever child they were discussing) and that this was neither of them.

I agree with HITC's approach. You could say "I'm a little worried because I overheard XYZ and I was wondering what you thought about this."