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PonderingPanda · 26/08/2019 16:09

So...Background. Just turned 16yr old DS. Finished mainstream school this year and just got GCSE results of 1 and 2 for four subjects as he couldn't cope with doing any more then that.

Applied for EHCP in 2017 and was assessed but turned down. School implemented EVERYTHING the Ed Psyche recommended at great cost to their own budget. He still didn't cope hence the grades above. He had a 1-2-1 throughout.

EHCP applied for again Feb 2019 and again denied as the panel feel College will be able to meet his needs.

I immediately decided on appealing and have contacted a solicitor who has quoted me approx £6000 to get to trial.

In the meantime thanks to the complaint I submitted to the Local Authority about the assessment not being adequate (i.e they didn't ask for any extra reports despite the EP putting in her report that DS other issues need assessing as they are impacting upon him), they are now paying for an independent OT Sensory assessment.

I am paying for a SALT as although DS has no problems with speaking he has developed a stammer. I have also requested a Section 17 child in need assessment.

So...to my problem.....

Realistically is it worth it? If I get an EHCP after spending all this money, is it really going to help as he probably won't have it for a length of time. Would it be better to pay for private therapy for his anxiety, sensory and dyspraxia...

I am also just at a complete loss as to what could go into the EHCP to help him as he refuses all help.

DS is very resistant to help, to the extent he would get very aggressive with his LSA at school so she had to be removed from him. But that then means he doesn't complete any work.

He has absolutely no motivation to do well and his self esteem is rock bottom.

I have tried to get him to go to social groups but he refuses. I have tried online groups - refuses.

I am just thinking, for a child who doesn't want to do anything except sit on his laptop in his bedroom, is it really worth me fighting for an EHCP and if so, what things could go into it.

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PonderingPanda · 29/08/2019 16:50

I know no-one answered, but as an update...

The LA conceeded prior to tribunal

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KisstheTeapot14 · 30/08/2019 14:48

Panda, its been quiet on here over summer. Sorry you did't get a reply. Great news that they conceeded.

What did you fight for in the end?

Ellie56 · 31/08/2019 16:55

Does he have a diagnosis of ASD?

LittleLongDog · 31/08/2019 17:04

I’m sorry you had to go through all the uncertainty. How’s your DS at the moment? What are the plans for September?

PonderingPanda · 04/09/2019 02:56

Hi everyone.

Ds1 has a diagnosis of ASD and dyspraxia. He will be getting an EHCP.

He started college Monday and so far complete disaster. They phoned me at work Monday to say they'd lost him - they eventually found him waiting in the wrong classroom. Yesterday when l got home in the evening l asked how it was and ds1 has declared it a waste of his time. Arrived today sat in the canteen for 2 hours, got bored so came home.

No one realised he was not where he should have been or contacted me to find out where he was....or even looked for him. So he now hasn't enrolled on his course.

You only get one chance to get it right with my son and they blew it on day 2.

I am furious about it especially as we have had meetings especially to discuss his vulnerability and what support he needs.

I have emailed asking for an explanation.

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Ilovellamas · 04/09/2019 21:47

I think it’s worth trying for an EHCP. It lasts until they are 25 and will give the college a kick up the bum to put in extra provision and support for your child

Legoroses · 04/09/2019 22:45

No advice. Just wanted to say: what the fuck? How totally shit and disappointing. I'm gutted to hear how terrible that is so far. Poor Ds.

Ellie56 · 06/09/2019 23:06

This sounds really shit OP. What support did they agree to put in place?

Have you had any reports from professional assessments back yet?

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