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K4THERINE · 02/08/2019 12:04

I’ve had issues with my son since... well, since he could walk. Hitting, biting, running away, destroying the house & destroying everything.

He went to school at 4, I was dragged in every day over his behaviour. Was constantly told how awful & naughty he is. Didn’t get any help. Took him to the doctors, crying my eyes out cos I just couldn’t cope anymore & I’ll never forget the doctor said to me, what do you want me to do? Take him away? No I just want some goddamn help. So he got kicked out of that school.

We moved to another county, and the same difficulties manifested. Constantly being dragged in, no help or support given. Was constantly taking him to the doctors, again, nothing. He was just a “lively child”.

A serious incident happened where he was accused of touching his friends sister. The mother of this child didn’t get the police, social services or anyone involved. She just took it upon herself to spread that my sons a “ped0” around the area. He was 8. I had to take him out of his school because he was being bullied & attacked over these allegations. Straight away I got the police, social services involved, our local MP, nspcc, absolutely anything and anyone I could think of. This went on and on, we were being abused, people coming around to the house, adults screaming at my front door he’s a ped0 c*nt. And I’m a ped0 protector. I kept him indoors for 8 months, the first time I ever let him out he was attacked, punched in the face & his scooter taken. Kept him in for months & months again. Police did nothing. He was being attacked over these false allegations.

One day we drove him to his friends. He ended up walking home. He was viciously attacked by TWELVE children; some in high school. The ordeal went on for 2 hours, but the last 4 minutes was caught on cctv. He was beaten with a metal pole, his face stuffed into a dead bird. Hit and punched in the face over & over. That video made me so fucking poorly & ill, it still haunts me he went through that. He was saved at the end of the video by two passers by, they were interviewed by the police also. Nothing came of it, didn’t even get an apology. But because we called the police, the families of these children started becoming aggressive. Coming to the home, screaming in our faces again that he’s a pedo, calling me a fat cunt, that they were going to beat my partner up. Again, police did nothing. Absolutely nothing. The local MP acted like she was trying to do something but again, nothing. For months I badgered the police and anyone I could think of. In the end I gave up for my own sanity....

Then. Then the woman who started all the ped0 rumours messaged me on Facebook asking to see me. I was still so angry but agreed. She said she had wanted to come and see me a few months prior but thought I’d attack her or something, which I never would, I wouldn’t lower myself. She told me her son had told her he was lying. That he just said it to get my son into trouble and she was sooo very sorry. I appreciate she finally came forward. That took guts, however, my sons life was ruined. No school for 12 months, several attacks, we’d been through several attacks also. I had voice recorded all of this in case she later tried to deny. She rang the police, school, social services & told them the truth but again, way too late. My sons life was down the sh*tter at the age of 10.

One silver lining is he finally got diagnosed as adhd, odd, and is being assessed for asd as we speak & has had a hereditary blood testing which we are waiting for the results on. All that had to happen before I was listened to. 9 years I was going through trying to get him diagnosed. He still has no school. He was home tutored for a grand total of 7 weeks out of like 15 months. They then shoved him into another mainstream school despite me saying this is not going to work. He lasted 5 weeks & 6 days before they called it quits and said he needs special needs help & that’s how I got his diagnosis finally but again the damage had been done, he was put into another school he was kicked out of further damaging his already very fragile confidence. It’s been a two year nightmare.

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livpotter · 02/08/2019 12:42

I am so sorry for everything that you and you son have been through. I hope that you will finally get the support you all need now. Thanks

Neighboursandnames · 02/08/2019 12:51

There are no words. You have been put through something no one should ever have to go through. Flowers I know this might be impossible but all I can say is it seems like you're living in hell and all these people are completely evil, and I would leave that hell. I would try to move if it were at all possible.

K4THERINE · 02/08/2019 16:13

Honestly if I could of left, wed of gone longggg ago. I have a few months left then we can sell the house & be rid of these people, evil is the correct word! The school were just as bad as these people

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WhatAMum01 · 02/08/2019 16:39

Wow Katherine that's such an awful awful life story for you and your poor son.you poor mother.what a cruel world it is at times.there are good people out there and it sounds like your son is finally on track.I wish him and you the most wonderful life.

K4THERINE · 02/08/2019 21:02

It’s still on going with a particular set of parents. I’ve had to put cameras up and my house is on a red alert or whatever it’s called if I ever rang the police. They’ve not come around since, however my son was on the front and the woman of one of these children (the one I was talking about that came to my house with her husband calling my kid a pedo cunt and me a fat bitch etc) saw my lad on the front, pulled up her car, rolled her window down & started calling my lad a pedo, a bastard, every vile name you can think of. The police must hate me cos I will ring over these incidents every time. These people keep getting away with it. And no word of a lie, this husband threatened my lad with a gun. It was investigated by cid etc but only like 8 days later, when they searched the house the “gun” had gone. There were other adults & children there at the time that heard the threat but the police still did nothing, even though this family is well known to the police and social services, it makes me wonder what’s going on?

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K4THERINE · 02/08/2019 21:04

I’ve written to chief of police, the crime commissioner, our local mp, local councillor. I’ve exhausted all avenues. All I can do is hope that they somehow slip up or leave us alone

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Isatis · 03/08/2019 16:47

I'm so very sorry all this happened. K4therine. Does your son have an EHCP now?

K4THERINE · 06/08/2019 20:08

Yes, it was completed in may

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Isatis · 07/08/2019 06:57

The bottom line is that your local authority has a duty to ensure that your son gets full time education and provision for his SEN. For immediate purposes they need to put tuition in place for September. I would suggest you also ask for an emergency review with a view to amending the EHCP to provide for a specialist placement, and start looking at possible schools for yourself. Bear in mind that you can look at schools outside your local area and independents.

GiveMeHope103 · 07/08/2019 20:01

Hugs hugs op. You and your poor boy. Yes everyone has failed you and that is heartbreaking. I pray that you will find the right help soon. Your boy has been through so much Sad

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