Thanks for the tip moondog and your support. Here is the new thread.
DS2 had his Ruth G today. Thought he wasn't going to do it at first as he wanted his fave dvds on. He did manage it and it wasn't scary. In fact I was suprised at how good he was at puzzles he only does what he wants normally so i didn't know. He is behind on speech and communicaton but knew he was anyway.
He said that it is possible that he has ASD but that speech delay etc can look like it. I just feel a bit gutted but I know I love him so much I am in limbo as I don't know anymore about how to help him or to deal with some senses issues he has. He was very vague as to the next steps and timescales. He did think that 1 to 1 in nursery would be required. I am so confused as what to do. I have been warned that this paed is not very active at getting stuff done. What do I do. I just want to do the right thing and I am scared he will get lost in the nursery system. How is autism diagnosed?