Very violent three and half year old

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My son has asd and is non verbal. He is very violent and it’s getting worse it’s not a reaction he does to get his own way.
Today he has
Ripped chunks out of dd6 hair quite a few times she will just be playing then he does it.
I have several bite marks where he has bitten me and my neck has nip marks on it
My newborn has been slapped todaysad
I can’t keep anyone safe nor can I control him he hurts himself as well
I just don’t know what to do

Poor little love must be really frustrated. Do you use pecs/makaton or another form of aac with him?
My 9 year is non verbal, he used to get so angry and frustrated. Occasionally he still does but he has learned to use a communication aid which helps a lot.

Are you getting any support? It sounds exhausting. An occupational therapist may be able to help look at sensory issues, a speech therapist may support with communication difficulties. In our area specialist nurses can help with many issues but I am not sure what ages they start supporting from. Have you got a social worker who could look at respite. Does he attend any specialist provision, in our area we have children from 2 years 9 months attend our state funded early years class.

We refused social services support but plan on telling hv on Monday to refer. He’s on the waiting list for ot and we hope to get a safe space for him. He’s at a nursery part of a school we’re they are hopefully will get a 1-1 soon as he’s pretty bad there to. He’s asleep now since he got melatonin his sleeps been ok which is a lifesaver

Also we are in Edinburgh if that helps

I shied away from social care support for ages and we struggled on until our dc were older. However once I did get a social worker for my eldest it really helped us access more help such as overnight respite, direct payments to get after school support and eventually a weekly boarding place for our asd teen. I know it is just luck whether you get a good social worker but we have been fortunate with ours.

My only advice is to remember that behaviour is communication.
He is not happy. He is frustrated.
He doesn't sound as if he can deal with the stimulation.
And I'd take any help I could get.

I would recommend asking for support from social services. You say he has ASD and is non verbal so you have a diagnosis? Therefore a social worker can help you move forward. Have you applied for Disability Living Allowance? Occupational Therapy is a particularly overstretched service - so you will be waiting longer for this.

My son is 4 autistic and exactly like this. He's also non verbal, screams/moans all day and will not sit still for a second. It's so very exhausing and so challenging.my son won't concentrate on anything,he's on a waiting list for adhd assessment also.I can't take him anywhere anymore it's too hard,he's a runner too.feels like really there's nothing we can do except struggle on.speech therapy and ot haven't worked and they hv said he's just not ready to learn any other communication methods such as pecs as he's unabe to foxus.he's severally autistic, the autistic no one really can do anything for.its broken me.