Hello,
I’m usually just a quiet user who silently reads all posts but I’m starting to get worried about my little one. This does not mean I don’t love my baby, I do and he is the light of my life but I thought I reach out and maybe you can tell me what you think. I’m not even sure if this helps but I just need to pour my heart out as I haven’t talked about it.
Louis turned 5 months yesterday and since birth, his eye contact has not been great. All the mummy eye gaze people talked about, I didn’t get for the first 8 weeks at all. He then slowly started looking at me when on his back in this moses basket and I was looking down on him (if that makes sense?), it has got slightly better but it’s still only fleeting and there is no stare, he is not interested in faces, not mine, not my husbands if he gets into our field of vision, I do get a lot of smiles but he wouldn’t be looking for my face, I have to move my head to be in his field of vision.
He has not rolled over once and won’t use his arms in the way the other babies use their arms, they lie by his sides rather than are in the air in an anti gravity way unless he wants to reach for something but even that is limited, he only grabs whatever is above his chest and belly, if I hold it over his head or anywhere beyond his shoulder, he wouldn’t reach for it. He does grab his feet and gravity then makes him roll onto his side. When he has the toy in his hand, he wouldn’t play with it or shake it, everything goes straight to his mouth, sometimes without him even looking at it.
He doesn’t like being cuddled, he loves being carried over my shoulder or outwards facing, he hates the cradle position when being held. He likes to stand on his little feet and look around and seems to be very curious.
He doesn’t understand peek a boo, I tried it many times and hoping it’ll still come. He just seems so different to all the babies in the baby classes/ groups. I love him to bits but it he turns out to be on the spectrum, I would like to help him as soon as I can. I like being in control and find it very hard to just wait and see and not be in control.... this has turned out to be a really long post but just needed to get it all off my chest xxx