I lost my s**t today

[Stressedmummyof4]

Having a rough time with my little one at the moment awaiting asd diagnosis and in mainstream school. Paediatrician came to a school meeting and more of less told them the little one is autistic and should be getting the help that a diagnosed child would be

He was provoked by a child in the playground yesterday 3 times and the final time he broke and lifted his hands. Another two children became involved against my little one punching and kicking which my little one retaliated with.

Hands down I don't condone him lifting his hands at all and he was disciplined for this at home. However I feel the school are being unfair. There are more back stories but I would be here all day. The boys who provoked him and started this were allowed to take part in a school event in the afternoon where the police fire brigade nurses and army were in, my little one was kept in an office from 10.30am yesterday morning till hometime.

I spoke with the head teacher today to request a meeting to discuss his safeguarding and things became heated because she wouldn't accept that the other boys were provoking him, again I said that him lifting hands was not on but these boys were then photographed enjoying the event.

Anyway she had more or less told me that if I have lost trust in the school perhaps it's time I removed my children from her school.

To say I am speechless is one thing but I am so flipping angry that my other kids are now being dragged into this sorry mess.

Maybe I am wrong but I just needed to vent!

Lifting hands is not an issue, can you say what he actually did? Did he throw a punch? Is that what you mean?

It sounds like your DSs school are not acknowledging that he is being bullied (provoked). He’s now an even greater target as those boys got away with it. If you have nobody there who is protecting and defending your son, or even seems to have his best interests at heart, I’d be looking at a different school for him. Is that a possibility? It’s all very upsetting for you both. I hope someone has some better advice.

Yes sorry Happyspud he said he slapped the boy, the boy slapped him back there was a chased it escalated. Another boy cane and kicked him so he hit the boy received a hit back all before a teacher stepped in. The jnitial provoke was lifting my kids jacket off a peg and throwing it on the ground my kid picked it up put it back on the peg and the kid threw it down again this happened 3/4 times before my kid snapped x

The poor child. I’d be very angry too. That’s bullying, pure and simple.

Honestly happyspud. I am exhausted with it all, I know he is exhausted with it too. I know it's not about me but I'm feeling ill with it, properly I'll like light headed and panic feeling. He has this every morning just going into this place x

Stressed - similar day for me (but Primary). Made a TA cry today when I challenged her about the care my DD is receiving. I was not aggressive in anyway but she was clearly ‘on the edge’ and an assertive parent was the final straw. I feel terrible but at the same time the School just DONT GET IT! And are angry at my DD for not making progress.

My DD does similar - reacts violently when other children are mean to her, but she gets the blame. I know it’s very wrong for her to do it but she is lost and other kids are being mean to her - for example laughing at her for the noises she makes. But school don’t seem to want to address this only focusing on my DDs reaction.

I intend to buy the TA a box of chocolates as I feel terrible.

Oh I feel your pain, we too are in a primary school, I actually had to face our head teacher today as it was sports day it was awful. We have been told today that we are having a meeting with the additional support needs manager for our area, who I'm assuming is like a senco I for Scottish schools. I have absolutely no idea what to expect. It's been a horrible week I hope your daughter is feeling a little brighter now it's the weekend. In my house we count down every sleep till the weekend and summer holidays. Luckily we don't have long to wait. Both my little one and me need this break xx

Weekends are our life saver. ☹️

Good luck with the meeting.

Hilariously the TA said to me “you don’t know how upsetting this is for me”. I said trust me I do and after this conversation I will feel a lot sadder than you. She actually replied no you won’t. Oh really when I’m trying to help my DD as she is hitting herself repeatedly after another “bad” day and you are home drinking wine after a hard day at work you will be feeling worse? I don’t think so!!!!