I’m wondering on whether to make a complaint to the SEN governor about my daughters school head. She is recently appointed and clearly has no empathy for SEN. Long story short is my 12 yr old daughter has a diagnosis of high functioning autism and does have a Ehcp. Has had since primary. All was going well, socially and in the classroom through the first year at secondary which was fantastic, there was little support in place but enough and my daughter was happy so no need to step in. Come the start of the new school year everything seems to have gone south and got progressively worse. Constant Detentions for failing to follow instructions , persistent calling out in class, lack of focus, refusing to contribute. As soon as I became aware I made an appointment to discuss with school. It then became apparent that the support in terms of a mentor and some class support had been taken away and used elsewhere. My child was telling me sch was hard and she kept getting told off. The teachers didn’t understand her. In comes the new head and a much stronger approach to what is seen as challenging behaviour. Every time my child is not seen to be working or not following instructions they call in another teacher who effectively takes them to the head . As my child isn’t coping well by the time he has been told off marched out questioned and reached the head she is not able to communicate how he is feeling and what went wrong and shuts down ignores or tells the head to leave her alone, is rude and non compliant . If she tries to punish her she refuses . This has made her mad and she has ended up putting my child in three separate internal inclusions. One for a day for play fighting one for three days for persistent lack of effort, not following instructions and more recently another three day for play fighting (same friend) eating in the corridor and persistent lack and not folllwoing instructions. During the second inclusion she refused to go said it was for naughty children and she wasn’t naughty and didn’t like it there and they called me to collect her. On the most recent one she again refused to go and do have now given him a one day fixed exclusion. Because she wouldn’t go to the inclusion despite interventions and support. I went for a meeting this morning and they insisted if she didn’t go the inclusion she will be sent home. I am trying to get across that the behaviour is down to her struggling in class and that I don’t believe her needs are being fully met. I think the sanction thing is far to strong and she should be given a break. Senior leaders have told me that they cannot provide enough support , one saying she was better off in inclusion as he would be supported.im there. After every meeting they promise to look into the support. They told me I should apply for exceptional needs funding which I now believe is their job not mine. SHe does have a time out/walk card and goes to a lunchtime club. There is also a lady tA that he can speak to at break and lunch and she really gets her. Also Recently CBT for one hour. The point is today when I got to finally actually speak to the head she told me that my child was non compliant , didn’t follow rules and was not following instructions and she can’t have that behaviour at her school. I reminded her she needed more support and we keep going over this. She said it’s not possible she cannot provide support every miniute of the day (not asking for that) just the basics and basic understanding would be nice. She got in a strop mid way flung her hands in the air and said this meeting is terminated this is not the school for you , to my child. Then told me to take her home. The Senco and I had in a previous meeting some months back whereby she apologised and said she’s taken her eye off the ball and would ensure she sorted support. Should I make a compliant about the heads behaviour. I think this is totally unacceptable ?!