ASD and swearing

[Nettle80]

Hi, my LB is 5 he’s pre verbal and only really uses echolalia to speak. He’s started using bad words. I know he knows that they are naughty words because he looks at me mischievously while saying them and smiles when I tell him off. I’ve tried telling him “no naughty words” now he just says “(f### no (name) naughty word) 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’ve tried ignoring him and giving him no reaction but he then thinks it’s okay to say them and will say them more often. Bad words are the f word (I admit he got that from me) idiot and hate you (from his older brother) I’ve also tried a sticker chart but he has zero interest in them

My little boy didn't speak until he was over two and uses a lot of echolalia now. He is nearly four and loves a good swear. I have found if he is having a bad day every other word is a bad word. I have tried telling him not to and rewarding him for stopping when I ask but now I just ignore it and let him get it out of his system. You can guarantee I don't hear a swear word for a while and he will overhear it and is off again. Swearing like a trooper, I just think it's part of the echolalia.

My daughter is 6 and has asd also, loves a good curse here and there especially when shes frustrated. Honestly, i just ignore it, even in public as I have found telling her to stop makes her more frustrated.

I agree Moonpiggle. It is better to let them get it off their chest and enjoy the rest of the day. My little boy is in a special needs pushchair, wears ear defenders and often has meltdowns when I am out. A bit of effin and jeffin is pretty easy to deal with really and at least he is having a verbal day.

@Aeris1 Ah okay its alot less hassle and nobody got hurt! Yes my daughter is the same, she also has ear defenders, the maclarens pushchair and is usually fiddling with something so yes I think its kinda obvious that she has special needs. So if we do get the odd funny look from a 'judgy twit' (im being polite)its their problem, not mine. Thats why i allow it and tbh it does tickle me when she has a random outburst and makes people jump! 😂

@moonpiggle. It is funny, I bought the elise excel which is big too, he has lady birds on his ear defenders and has a toy dog on a pink lead which he holds sat on the foot plate. People are very judgmental but we don't care and it is funny when he swears. There are worse things I deal with on a daily basis like we all probably do and it is nice to know he is not the only one

@Aeris1 He sounds awesome to me! Bless him..it is hard and challenging (smearing and meltdowns) but its also fun too which i guess you already know! I think the best way to think before going out with a sn child is to expect the unexpected lol. OP maybe you could introduce a new word and pretend its a naughty word?? Hopefully he catches onto it and starts saying that instead. Just a thought 😊