Is it common..

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For kids with asd to have their behaviors heighten mainly at home and with their parents. I just can't help feel I'm failing my son as his difficult behaviors tend to be for his father and I. He does obviously meltdown for other people and struggle elsewhere, but it's heightened a lot for us. It's like he copes as best he can for others and then erupts where he feels safe.

Yes, my ds is like that. He holds it together while out then the anxiety shows at home. He is 10 now and I think his school has started to notice his anxiety. I think now he is older it is easier for the teachers to spot when he is anxious which does make me feel better. When he was younger I was always told he was fine at school when I knew he wasn't.

I should have said, now school recognise when ds is anxious and are helping him, his anxiety is very much reduced at home. You are not failing your son. He has alot to cope with in everyday life outside of the home. It will take alot of effort for him to deal with it.

I think all children save their worst behaviour for their parents, its not just an autism thing.

Thanks everyone. Reading the comments have helped me feel less of a failure today! It is true that all kids will let loose where they feel safest I guess. Need to keep this in mind. Thank you.