My asd son is nearly 8 and in year 3, in terms of support we have been lucky. Reception to year 2 was fabulous. He has fantastic support and the communication between us and his teacher/TA’s was great.
But since year 3 it seems to have gone down hill. His teacher is also the head of school personally I think she’s a bit scatty and forgetful and not overly approachable. He has two TA’s, both are nice enough but I feel like we aren’t lacking what we’ve had in the last few years. Mainly over the communication rather than the actual support he receives.
DS doesn’t really tell me much about different things going on at school so I rely on the staff telling me, letters etc. I check his book bag the moment he gets in. But letters don’t seem to be making it home.
So far this year we have missed the flu jab. When I questioned his ta where his letter was, she said year 3 weren’t eligible. She was wrong, but we never received a form. His school play tickets that were meant to be put in his book bag went missing. Also we’ve missed important letters. I didn’t know about a trip until the day before and I never signed a consent form or paid in time (sigh). I never got a letter about Christmas lunch so he missed that. DS doesn’t tell me anything. I didn’t have a letter for dress up day. He is often forgetful.
The school receptionist does send texts or to parents but they are often last minute (the night before or the same morning) so it’s always too late.
I’m unsure if the letters aren’t making it home because his ta’s aren’t ensuring they are in his book bag or handed to me or because he is losing him but DS manages to bring home his reading books, spellings, home/school book (they write down what work he has done) every day without a problem.
I mentioned it to the school receptionist because I missed another important letter. She told me that it was my fault and all letters go into book bags and I should go check it. But I check it every single day the moment we get in and I like to think I’m an organised mum.
Saturday night and I’ve just found out from another parent there’s a bleddy dress up day on Monday. I’m rubbish at making costumes so I am thinking of sending him in normal clothes as he hates dressing up anyway!
Just wanted to vent!
When I mentioned this to another parent she said that now they are 7-8 they are expected to be more organised themselves. Letting parents know things and picking up letters but in the case of DS he really does need he extra support to do this!!