Dealing with emotions of having SN child.

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Hello i have a 2 year old who we r getting assessed for Autism, just starting jounrey, im really struggling with emotional side, feeling really angry that ive been chosen to have SN child and everyone i know has NT child. I have had a baby 3 weeks ago so dealing with new born too obviously isnt helping with hormones , just feeling so sad about my 2 year old

I’m sorry you are going through this. Talking from my experience, I think the figuring out what is wrong bit is so hard, for me I was so worried/anxious/couldn’t sleep etc it was almost like a greieving process.
A couple of years on my son got diagnosed, got the support he needs and is now a happy thriving boy. Things weren’t anywhere near as bad as I thought they were going to be (with my endless googling and reading).

It must be really hard with a baby and no doubt no sleep as well.

A good occupational therapist that specialises in this kind of thing can be life changing. Mine did a few talks for parents and that way I got a little group of friends I could talk to who were going through the same thing too, that made me feel less alone and we shared tips etc with each other. Sometimes the local authority do talks for free. And I’m sure there is an autistic society, if there’s one near you it’s probably a good place to start.
The mumsnet sn board is also very supportive and full of good ideas.

Good luck with your journey. Things will get better

Thank u for replying, i feel like im getting baby blues just not about my baby! Its her sister !i have found a friend who is going through same with her boy. She has gone down private route and he has been diagnosed, im still waiting for my HV to make referals ! Which is making me sad, just want her to get help

It’s such a journey of acceptance and it’s so blinking hard. It has taken me the best part of two years to really accept that my ds will not grow out of it and really is not NT. He doesn’t have any formal diagnosis yet which alway plays into my ,everything will be fine, narrative which is unhelpful for both of us.

This sounds corny but it really is a journey of acceptance and not an easy one. I would flip between, anger, jealousy and sadness (in private) daily but slowly over time you adjust and begin to enjoy the new normal. Please keep posting about how you feel. I wish I had done but I just couldn’t face that sort of reality until reasently.