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Really made a spectacle of myself :(

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anniebear · 05/07/2007 10:15

Had the girls class assembly at mainstream today, the whole class takes part

They have practised all week, but Ellie only goes to mainstream on a Thur and Frid and we got her line she had to say on wed afternoon and had no practise with the others

It was on the stage which they dont normally go on so she would have been excited to start with

It was so awful.

The exact moment it came to her part she saw us and shrieked "Hello Mummy, it's Daddy, hello Dady"

Of course the whole school laughed

But the more they all laughed it made her more excited, jumping up and down shouting us

They tried to calm her and get her to say her line but she was to excited by this stage

It seemed to go for ages, as they kept trying to get her to say it

It was so horrible. I just had my head down, eyes closed (the whole school could see me) and could just hear all their laughter and Ellie shouting

I dont know why they let it go on for as long as they did

Then of course I started crying

Just got in now and am sobbing

It maybe doesnt sound much, but it was horrible

Had an horrendous time yesterday morning to the point I nearly walked out at 5.15am

It just isnt fair, everyone else did their parts eally well (inc Grace, poor Grace, doesnt get a look in does she! But she is getting the new Numberjacks dvd for being o good)

then I heard a parent say "Oh didnt they all do so well"

er......no

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anniebear · 05/07/2007 10:21

thanks

the parents are lovely!

one held my hand when I cried! (the whols school and staff could see me

others came up and said "remember we are your friends, we love you and Ellie is just amazing"

Belive me, she didnt do well though lol

Then poor Grace, who did fab, totally gets overlooked

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magso · 05/07/2007 10:59

Oh Anniebear! I feel for you! I find class assemblies difficult because the difference between my child and his classmates is so so obvious to me.
However all the other parents are looking at their own los, glazed over with pride or willing them on! The older kids enjoy the sweet behaviour of the youngest and laugh with genuine warmth.
My son did the same, (waving and shouting to me) and forgot his elevated position in his bid to run for a hug! Fortunatly a fast thinking teacher grabbed him before gravity had a chance! It was only a moment but it felt like an age! In another assembly he knocked his plant off the stage and dissolved into tears. Children at the front placed it back in the pot and handed it back!
I find it helps to deliberatly notice (like a distraction) other children also and make suitable comments afterwards!

Blu · 05/07/2007 11:06

Big hugs, Anniebear.

And she DID do well! She stayed on the stage, she waved! I have seen hundreds of primary school events where children are expected to 'do their bit' and there is always at least one who doesn't, NT or not NT.

I do know why you are so upset....but she did do well, and I believe that mother who said what she said about Ellie.

It sounds as if the laughter was in sympathy with Ellie's enjoyment, it sounds as if ellie enjoyed herself - but i know why you, Ellies Mum found it so poignant and unbearable. So hugs.

magso · 05/07/2007 11:07

The other parents would have seen a lo pleased to see their much loved dps and perhaps been reminded of their dcs doing similar!

BettySwallocks · 05/07/2007 11:15

At our school assembly there was one little girl who refused to say her part, she just put her head down and cried, so the teacher had to say it for her. Yours has confidence.

edam · 05/07/2007 11:20

I bet all the other parents thought she was lovely and I also bet they were secretly a tiny bit jealous that their children weren't so excited to see them. Honest! She sounds lovely. And it is brilliant that she was so confident. And that her sister did so well.

I don't have a child with SN but I can sympathise with you getting tearful. But my (NT) ds did something similar a while back, if that helps.

jenk1 · 05/07/2007 11:21

annie i read this post and thought it sounded so sweet the way ellie was shouting you and your dh but i understand why you feel upset.
reminds me of when ds was in school years ago before he came out and his class had an assembly and they all had to say things that made them feel sad, well when he stood up he looked straight at me and dh and said "when parents make promises that they dont keep" of course everyone turned around and laughed but i went so red with embarressment and ds was glaring at me from the stage.

ellie sounds like a lovely special little girl who loves her mum and dad so much.

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anniebear · 05/07/2007 13:16

thank you so much , you are very kind

well at least the school children were all entertained rather than sitting there bored at 27 5/6 year olds all mumbling their lines lol

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anniebear · 05/07/2007 13:17

I just have to go and face all the parents again at 3.15!!!!!!!!

I am worried that some one might say "oh your DD was so funny this morning" I might hit them lol lol

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aloha · 05/07/2007 13:37

Oh Anniebear, I really, really sympathise and EMPATHISE. My ds (Aspergers) did his class assembly today and dh and I were totally stressed out by it (I've come on SN to start another thread on it for a different reason, actually) and there he was chewing on his stress ball, wriggling about, being a bit silly etc BUT - and I do think this is hugely important - he did really well for him and that is all we can ask. Yes, I did feel embarrassed at times (like when he was trying to sit on the stress ball and it looked ridiculous!) but I think it's my job to squash those feelings. He loved the microphone so much that he came out with a lot of gobbledigook and everyone laughed, but laughter isn't a negative thing, and they weren't laughing at him or sneering, they just thought it was hilarious and the adults thought it was sweet.
I am certain that nobody was mocking your dd Anniebear, just finding it sweet and anarchic. Everyone knows she has SN, it's nothing to be ashamed of, so they are happy to see her and happy to see her happy and excited.
When my mum did ballet shows (she's a teacher) the one little girl who always wandered to the front of the stage to peer into the gloom and wave at mum and dad always attracted waves of laughter at the sheer amusing charm of it. She's only little. I'm sure that Grace knows exactly how proud you are of her. Be proud of both of them, it sounds as if she did well. For me, the fact that ds stayed on the stage and didn't hog the microphone for the entire morning was a HUGE success - and hard won too.

aloha · 05/07/2007 13:38

Oh, and my ds came out today and yelled 'Where is dd?' at us. She's his target market, I'm sure

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anniebear · 05/07/2007 14:06

arrh thats great that he stayed on the stage

Thing that is hard although I thought she was going to struggle a bit, last time at Christmas she was fab, she went to the front and said "Good morning everybody and welcome to year 1's assembly"

so loud and clear, probably the clearest there!!!

and this time was just painful !!!!

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2shoes · 05/07/2007 14:13

oh anniebear big hugs to you.
when ds was in year 6 his class did a play. I arranged it so that dd had a front row "seat" he cam on started to say his on big line and dd shouted at him and got all excited.(everyon including ds laughed)
I know it is not the same but just wanted you to know we all go through it in some way.and your dd sounds georgeous.

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