OK, so DS is 11, autistic, dyspraxic and suspected ADHD. On the whole, he's a good kid - polite, helpful and usually respectful (although I've had to ask him not to call a teacher ableist when he feels she's discriminating against him.)
Since the beginning of the school year, I've noticed that he's being punished more and more for certain elements of his SEN being displayed, frequently losing much of his lunch break to finish off work, which is demoralising him, and being moved down on the reward chart for losing focus.
I've spoken to the school repeatedly over the past five months, telling them that DS doesn't feel that he's getting the support he needs, but instead feels he's being punished for having problems focusing. Each time they argue that there's plenty of support in place for him, and each time he argues otherwise. Their answers, however, are vague and I feel I'm banging my head against a brick wall.
Obviously, I want DS to be able to focus. He has his SATS this year. But I'm worried about the effect that penalising him has on his education, as he tends to obsess on the punishment rather than using the fear of punishment to focus. In short, the fear of punishment becomes another distraction. Obviously, I'm not the SENCO, I'm not the education expert, but surely there's other ways of helping him keep focus rather than punishment?